First Day of School 2011

3rd grade!
(If you're wondering, yes, his shirt is on backwards)


Kindergarten with Mrs Kravitz!
(if you're wondering, yes, that's a bird nest on her head)

Wild Ride

2 days in the Wisconsin Dells was a fun treat for us a few days before school begins...we went with two other families that we are friends with through school, the Roes and the Storellis. We had a great time. The kids (8 total) were such great companions for one another...there was always someone wanting to do the same thing, ride the same ride. No major meltdowns or arguments made for a really good first travel-with-other-families experience. Michael rode The Hurricane (which scared ME) and yelled on the way down, "I DON'T LIIIIIKE THIIIIS!!!"

Meg was less adventurous on the slide front, but I have realized that probably that is for the best...that she is simply relying on her own water comfort. She can swim, no problem, but when the current is churning the water all around, she may just know better for now. Like one of the other little girls there told me, "I really like water slides, but my tummy doesn't always agree with me."

Here are my kids sucked into their DSs within minutes of waking up in the morning; Michael with the friend he brought (the other 6 kids were girls, so I offered some mercy); and all of the kids on the trip EXCEPT mine in front of the funny car that brought us dinner.

Good times all around.

Dad Entry #107

Michael and I went to his first Cubs game. It was awesome. The Cubs came from behind and beat the Cardinals in the 10th, 5-4. Extra innings victories by the home team are cool, of course, because the game ends abruptly when the winning run crosses and players storm the field to celebrate and congratulate whoever hit the game-winner. We saw it all! I admit I got a little misty-eyed when the game started. Wrigley is my baseball mecca; I've been going for decades, even lived nearby for a few years after college. Pujols stepped in during the top of the first. We were in the upper deck, but on an edge near home plate looking right down at him. Michael said, "He's probably the best hitter in baseball, isn't he?" I said, "Yep, maybe not this year, but at points in his career he's been more feared and pitched around than any active hitter, the best, I agree." Pujols broke his wrist this season, and his numbers are down a bit. Anyway, I encouraged Michael to watch the batters closely, watch how each digs in, gets set, rocks a little, moves the bat, then strides and gets after it. He understood my point, and each hitter's stance become a topic of discussion, along with all the other nuances of the game. There are so many games within the game. He was interested and attentive the whole 10 innings, to both the overall game and also the little things I suggested he notice, the fielders' movements before each pitch, the baserunners, the hitters on deck, pitching from the stretch, pitching from the windup, the pitchers in the bullpen, the way pitchers rubbed the baseball and maintained the mound and used sweat and rosin and dirt on their hands, how they changed speeds and located pitches and fooled hitters, and the way hitters responded by looking for certain pitches and adjusting and maybe shortening their swing to slap a pitch the other way instead of taking a bigger, nastier cut. Maybe I went overboard - do I sound insane? - but Michael took it all in; he always seemed interested. And, keep in mind, we sat there for over three hours; there was a lot of silence too, I didn't talk his ear off. Like I said, it was a perfect first Wrigley experience for my son. But as we sat watching Pujols, in his first at-bat, after he'd dug a little place for his back foot and planted it and was ready to go, I capped my instruction about watching each hitter's idiosyncrasies and habits before every pitch... I said, "When you bat, Michael, that is YOUR batter's box! You dig in, get set, take your time, get comfortable and confident and you hit it hard." Honestly - I may edit this part out - I had to consciously refrain from inserting expletives in one or two places in my little hitter's speech to Michael, the way I might've 'brightened' similar encouragement to a softball teammate, with no kids around. It does help to add emphasis sometimes :) Anyway, I felt some emotion well up when I said that to him and I had to pull the sunglasses on my head back down over my eyes. By the way, Starlin Castro is uber-talented, a hitting machine. And Michael was thrilled to see Aramis Ramirez, Alfonso Soriano, Marmol, Pena, Soto and the rest of the gang. There were home runs, stolen bases, pitching changes, pinch hitters, errors, Cubs fans throwing Cardinals' home runs back onto the field, and Soriano was hit by a pitch. It was a good sample of America's Favorite Pastime.

Megan notified me the other day, "Daddy, I will not use our bathroom anymore, it's too hairy." I said, "What?" Speaking louder this time - I guess she thought I was deaf instead of incredulous - Megan said, "The bathroom is too hairy. I'm going to brush in the other bathroom sink, or the kitchen. It's too hairy!" I checked it out, and she had a point. I hadn't cleaned up my beard stubble enough after my last shave. I will not make that mistake again.

Sara took the kids to the Wisconsin Dells yesterday for a Sunday / Monday good time before school starts on Wednesday. Megan called and said, "I just wanted to say 'hi' Daddy." I said, "Honey, thank you so much, do you promise to do this every day of your life, even when you're in college, or with your own family, or on Mars or wherever, do you promise to call me lots and lots, every day, just to say hi?" I think I confused her; she didn't really answer the question. Then I asked her about the waterslides and the conversation got back on track.

Megan's favorite song in my car's CD player right now is 'The Foggy Dew' by The Young Dubliners. Check it out on iTunes. Honestly, I didn't push it on her at all, she likes my 'Irish Music' but I never thought she'd want this one played over and over.

Dad Entry #106

All those times I've described Michael as easy-going.... not so sure anymore. He has a real nice competitive streak in him. He's furious right now cause he's losing in Wii bowling. I mean, who gives a crap about Wii bowling. But, BUT, I understand; I don't like losing either, unless it's to someone who could really use a boost, and, well, the prestige of beating me at something. But my opponents in golf, or on opposing softball or basketball teams... they don't need a boost, another win. So, generally speaking, I agree with Michael. Stomp on 'em! Grind 'em into dust!

Michael is the king of saying his plate or snack cup or dessert bowl is empty, so he wants more, when - hello! - it's not empty at all! Example: he will have a medium sized taco salad on his plate and then ask for one last taco. Dude, eat the 2.5 servings of food still on your plate. Please. Then we'll talk. Last night, we had chicken pot pies that Michael picked out, and I baked one for each of us and Michael said he was done and wanted more, which I was concerned about because I'd already wolfed mine and half of Megan's, but I looked into Michael's bowl and he had like five bites left! I said, "Michael, I see chicken and carrots in there still. And a big piece of crust! CRUST for crying out loud, Michael! That's the best part!" Does this sound silly and petty. Of course it does. But ask Sara, I think she'd agree it's annoying. Maybe his only flaw.

Megan choked on an orange wedge yesterday, peeled but apparently still pulpy or pithy enough to get stuck in her throat. Her eyes widened a bit and she gagged and my heart went, very suddenly, from 60 beats per minute to about 560. It's funny, we've all had scary and sudden moments and it's during these instants that the situation, our activities and surroundings, do appear to slow, or at least our thoughts quicken. Would you agree? Have you ever heard of the 'Third Man Factor' or phenomenon? Google it. A calming presence sets in; it's not enough to relax me or anything, but maybe it takes my heart rate from 560 down to 160. So I watched her closely, gagging, and had a few thoughts, mainly, she's only been choking for about 3 seconds now, she can try to get it out naturally for a few more seconds, e.g. throw-up or gag it out, before you really have to worry about her breath, but if it gets to that you're gonna very deliberately and forcefully lift her still-pretty-little-body out of that chair and give her a reasonably violent Heimlich, because at that point, you don't care about sore tummies or ribs, you care about dislodging that (insert your go-to expletive here) piece of food out of her airway. Believe it or not, that entire thought string only took about half a second. She gagged it up and out on the second or third try. No barfing or anything. But it was better than a Starbucks triple espresso for my excitement level.

In the car this morning, Michael said, "I had a dream last night. The police were there. They were, like, looking for us, me and Nahum and Alex." After that intro, I was listening. Closely! Michael continued, "Then we were talking with them. And I think we, like, had to go to jail maybe, for like 24 hours or something." I managed to say, "Really?" Then Michael asked, "How much does it cost to get someone out of jail?" I told him it depends on the crime, it's very expensive for serious crimes and then you're only out until your trial to determine if you're guilty or not. I think Megan sensed we were both rattled by the discussion. She said, "Don't worry Michael, the police don't take little kids to jail, only teenagers for speeding. Right, Dad?" Yes, Sweetheart. Exactly right.

Quotables

Me: Michael, you have FUR on your teeth. You need to brush them better! Meg, let me see yours.

Inspection

Me: They look great! Good brushing! How do you get em so clean? Tell your brother.

Megan: I just brush them til they're sobbing with toothpaste.


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After an attempt to explain something to me and Meg:

Michael: DUH, people!

Me: Michael...that's not super nice.

Michael: What? I said 'da PEOPLE. Like da people of the United States.'

Dad Entry #105

Michael and I were talking baseball.
Michael: "Who's your favorite first baseman right now?"
Me: "Joey Votto. But he's not gonna win NL MVP again this year. Seems like a nice, humble guy though, and a hard worker."
Michael: "Favorite catcher?"
Me: "Mauer."
Michael: "Yeah, mine too. Second base?"
Me: "Dustin Pedroia. But my goodness is Dan Uggla scorching hot right now after a slow start."
Michael: "Hmm, I like Robbie Cano. Shortstop?"
Me: "Easy. Starlin Castro. The kid's batting over 300 and he's practically your age. And he's a Cubbie!"
And so on. Eventually Michael asked Megan - thankfully she'd been working on a DQ double chocolate cone so was okay with all the baseball talk - "Who's your favorite player?" Megan, my precious little sweetheart said, "Daddy!" Clearly that didn't work for Michael though; he said, "No, really Megan, who's your favorite major league player?" Megan said happily, "I like all the good players!" Michael, smelling weakness, kept going. Maybe he'll be a litigator some day. He said, "Great Megan, you can't even name a favorite player." This crossed the line - or maybe he did when he ridiculed Megan's 'Daddy' answer - so I shut it down, "Michael, back off, she's not a baseball super-fan, an expert, she doesn't have hundreds of cards like you, if we're talking about favorite Barbies, can she jump all over you if you don't have a perfect answer?" So Michael, from his heels, in a kind of parrying move, said, "I know Barbies." To which I mumbled, "I wouldn't brag about that, Kid." And then, sure-footed now, he'd clearly thought of something, he added, "In fact, I'd say my favorite Barbie is Ken." He was kinda smug when he said it, chin raised slightly. And yet he knew it was a silly comeback, a silly argument; he smiled just a little. Even so, I was impressed; he'd held his position beyond the point I would've acquiesced. Although, of course, I would've never held his position in the first place because he was WRONG! My stance on this important matter: Ken is Ken, not Barbie, not a Barbie you can choose from as your favorite. Barbies include Barbie Mariposa, Barbie Fairytopia, Mermaid Barbie; there's Rocker-, Fashion-, Malibu-, Holiday-, Wedding-, Denim- and Corvette-Barbie. Sign Language Barbie. Castle Barbie. Good lord. Farrah-Fawcett-in-that-red-swimsuit Barbie. No shit. I just googled it. And Barbie has about a hundred friends with different names, hair and skin color, etc. See, I'm a good Dad. And she thinks I only like baseball.

Speaking of baseball... we were watching the Cubs and Meggie said, "Dad, the baseball players spit on their court. It's crazy, right? You can't spit on your court!" I didn't have the heart to tell her I'd spit on baseball 'courts' a million times in my life, sometimes with tobacco in my mouth. Don't tell Grandma Barb. When I was a kid playing ball she said, "I don't ever want to see you spit." So I had to make sure she wasn't looking when I spit. Thankfully, Megan didn't comment on all the adjusting of cups and private parts that goes on in baseball. Grandma Barb did though, over the years.

Megan is pigeon-toed. And skinny.

I like it when I see something shiny in the carpet, tiny but noticeable. Sure, I'm a man: "Ooh, look! Shiny!" Anyway, I notice it and lean down and see that it's a single sequin. Another reminder I have a daughter. Debris from one of her crazy glam outfits. The woman at Crate & Barrel yesterday called Megan a 'little fashionista!' And two other women applauded her shoes which are slip-on heels with white feathery boa material on the toes, along with a single pink ribbon rose. And she slipped and nearly fell down the concrete condo stairs in those damn shoes; but I grabbed her arm to keep her upright before I even processed what was going on, luckily I was right next to her. And then all I could think was, this is not good.

Michael grabbed a bag of 'Flamin' Hot' Cheetos at Subway. I said, "You aren't gonna like 'em." He said, "No, I like them, I had them already with Nahum (pronounced Nigh-ome, rhymes with home, his friend and classmate)." I said, "You won't finish 'em and you're gonna be hungry for other chips and you're not gonna get any." To Michael's credit, he ate the whole bag. But it took him three days. I didn't force him. He just kept them and had a few with each of the next several meals.

Dad Entry #104

Megan likes to make her bed. She organizes and props up her 'pets' - her stuffed animals - and straightens her sheets. She's so cute it's crazy. But she's irritated with me right now; She said, "Dad, how come you just wanna play baseball with Michael all the time?" This broke my heart a little. I said, "That's not true, Lover-Dove, I like to play with you too." Wanna go hit some balls off the tee?

Megan asks to do dishes now. No kidding. "Daddy, put some water in the sink please so I can do dishes." First of all, everything goes in the dishwasher, Sweetheart. I don't care if it melts. And second, my daughter ain't gonna do no dishes. That's what your husband'll be for. I suppose that's not funny.

I like to fold Megan's laundry. It reminds me that I have a daughter. And that she's small.

I'm afraid that every time I take out Megan's pigtail rubber-bands I pull out clumps of her hair. I don't hurt her; I know how to avoid that, and she doesn't wince or complain, and she's not developing any bald spots, but somehow despite excruciating care I end up with strands of hair entangled in my fingers, along with the rubber-band. It's a pain in the butt; how do chicks deal with this everyday? My current strategy for my own hair: let it fall out. It's working. I take out Megan's hairbands before bath-time. During her bath, I have a new habit of encouraging a quick rinse of the conditioner. Megan always responds by saying, "No Dad, you have to wait a few minutes, you have to give the conditioner time to condish." Condish? Whatever, it sounds cute and I haven't heard it enough yet to quit provoking her to say it.

Michael is so into baseball. I'll be in the middle of a bedtime story, an improv' one, to both Megan and Michael (sidenote: this is challenging as my audience is diverse, and, as I've whined here before, telling stories fluidly, creatively, vividly, like it's depicted in bedtime or campfire scenes in the movies is not so easy), so I'll be weaving something pretty silly but it's working; the kids are listening; I can tell because they're attentive, they add commentary here and there, and provide direction (e.g. I'll ask, "Should the Pirate ship fire canons at the Viking boats or make a run for the sea cave?" and the kids will answer). So I'll be describing how the warrior (who we'll have named something like Killabrew, Turkalew, Servo, Shen, Jimenez, or The Monk, The Blacksmith, The Joiner... all characters we've told stories about), anyway, I'll be telling how the warrior jumps off the castle rampart and lands right on the guard, but this sends them both sprawling, and they crash into the glass tank where they're keeping the mermaid, this is very bad of course cause the tank shatters, and mermaids need water - duh! - and they're miles from the sea - but we can dip her in the castle moat! - and the silence in the castle is broken now, more guards are streaming in, and dogs are barking suddenly, big ones like the Lindgrens' German Shepherds, but aren't dogs friendly to mermaids, can't they read each other's thoughts, and communicate telepathically; will the dogs help the mermaid and the outnumbered warrior?! And I'm getting kind of excited because here I've gotten the story to a crescendo of sorts, and as I said earlier, it's not easy to do this on a semi-regular basis, and then, and then, Michael will blurt, "Dad, is Matt Holliday having a good season?" You know how a balloon deflates, looping and twisting and shrinking. And the sound. Maybe I'm a lousy storyteller. But I know he was listening too, because he'd spoken up a few times about the story, but if there was a PC 'Task Manager' that I could open to see what applications are running inside Michael's head, right there next to 'Bedtime Story Program' I would see 'Baseball Card Appraiser'. It's pretty much a background app these days, always running alongside 'Eat', 'Drink', 'Be Condescending to Megan' and all the others, often interrupting them in fact with an urgent question or concern. I love it, and here's why: I remember being the same way. Obsessed with the value of my cards, which is driven by player performance, of course. We have a lot of OCD in the family already though, not sure I wanna provide or support perfect vehicles for its expression and remarkable development. But who doesn't love baseball cards? So I answer Michael, "Matt Holliday's production is down a little this year, Bud, in general I'd say, but Berkman has really picked up the slack for the Cards, and you've got Pujols to worry about too if you're a pitcher, so Holliday's gonna see good pitches, and I think he's been heating up lately; he's still Matt Holliday. Anyway, so the mermaid's beautiful shiny tail is starting to dry...."

Dad Entry #103

Michael received rave reviews from friends and family in Clear Lake. He's bright, happy, fun, energetic, polite, easy-going. He eats a lot; he laughs a lot. He goes with the flow, or can be persuaded to do so after minimal grumbling. My friends Sharon and Todd agreed, "We're just really impressed with Michael; he's cool, nice, smart. He's awesome." And he's crazy about baseball right now. I'm adding that part, not Todd and Sharon :) Michael will provoke Megan occasionally, and be condescending to her - which I have zero tolerance for even if he's right and she's wrong - but I'll say here what I tell him regularly: I feel very lucky to have him for a son. I don't mention this next part to him, as we are father and son right now, first and foremost, but I look forward to the times we'll have together, out there in the future, as just adults, friends, peers, men. We'll always be father and son of course, but looking at the world together, and our family, as equals during the highs and lows we'll experience... I think it'll be great to have Michael in my corner, and to be there for him, also.

I believe most five-year-olds can grasp the basics of earning and spending (even if the federal government can't). When you earn, you get money; when you spend, you lose it. And the latter can't exceed the former (unless you're the federal government, in which case it can do so by 14 trillion). But Megan gets confused - and angry! - when dealing with more abstract and delayed monetary concepts like saving, change (money left after a purchase), currency (she thinks five ones are worth more than one five), loans ('pay me back from your piggy bank when we get home'), and decisions like 'should I buy one big thing or three small ones?!' Yes, also problems analogous to our mismanaged federal government, and I haven't even mentioned how Megan struggles with freebies yet, when I buy her a little something, my concerns about her future expectations and dependencies; more fodder for partisan pundits if the topic was politics and not my sweetheart. It's so much nicer to talk about Megan. So Sara had a garage sale. Megan sold more of her old toys than Michael; she made $21 to Michael's $14. But Sara doled Megan's out in 3 bills (a little math problem for ya!), whereas Michael got 5. A meltdown ensued. Megan insisted she was getting less, and she can be so impressively stubborn, even when dead wrong, that attempts to explain or persuade are simply hopeless. Meltdowns are rare, and then only 'Category 1' I'd say, you know, the kind that blow shingles off the roof and knock over trees, nothing serious like tossing cars and homes around. I wouldn't say my Sweetheart is super-volatile, just super-stubborn. We're working on it, but life happens and there's no better teacher.

Megan asked me, "Does Grandma love me and Michael more than you?" Funny how kids - and too many adults - like to keep score, or try to put things or understand them in this kind of order. I thought, Of course not! My mommy loves me the most! Kidding. Sort of. I should've given her the canned 'Grandma loves her kids and grandkids all the same' response. Instead, I said, "I don't know, what do you think?" Megan said, in a quieter, more compassionate tone, as if she felt sorry for me, "Yeah, I think she loves us more."