Halloween was a success. By my metrics, anyway, which include things like: 1) Megan didn't fall ass-over-teakettle bounding down concrete patio steps in her too-long, hoop-y wedding dress and heels, and 2) Michael's nasty cough subsided long enough for him to trick-or-treat, and 3) The neighbor pulled a wagon with beers hidden in a blanket-covered false bottom, and 4) Michael got two lemonhead candies - big ones, shooter-marble-sized - which I promptly stole to enjoy next week when posting up at the end of some long creek bed, swale, cornfield, or finger of forest waiting for pheasants to fly out. Life is good.
Megan asked me repeatedly, "What are you going to be for Halloween, Dad?" She never seemed bummed that my responses were insincere or noncommittal, "I'm gonna be a Jedi," or, "I'm not sure Honey, what do you think I should be?" Her answer? A prince. She is so awesome. I think I better dress up next year. At least in an Elvis wig and sideburns and sunglasses. Not a prince but a king, the king. Or maybe my dad still has one of his old leisure suits, that'd be enough.
Megan is spelling an important word correctly now. Luv is Love. I prefer the former - which she's scribbled on several notes for me - but I've grudgingly endorsed the proper spelling.
Michael and I watched Iowa State pound Texas Tech on Saturday. On the road in Lubbock. The Cyclones just ran 'em over, 41-7. Over 300 yards rushing. I tried to conceal my surprise from Michael. I was pacin' and freakin' until it was almost like, dude, relax, even the Bears couldn't come back from this deficit. I sensed my nervousness had leaked out a tiny bit - like when I lept out of my chair and flexed and growled on touchdowns and turnovers - so for Michael's benefit, I nonchalantly mumbled a few things like, "Piece o' cake, on the road in Texas is ALWAYS a Cyclone victory." Whether Michael caught it as a reference to ISU's victory in Austin last year, as well, I'm not sure. The Cyclones were a freight train and I'm proud.
Tuesday, November 01, 2011
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Dad Entry #112
Megan was looking at something on my Xoom tablet. She said, "Daddy, it isn't stuff about me?" I said, "What?" She said, "I don't see stuff about me." I inquired further and discovered she was Googling herself. Ha! She had entered her name - "Megan Cox" - into the Google search field and was examining the results. She said, "I wanna find pictures of me, like when I was a baby!" Awesome. Michael's been Googling things lately (don't worry, he's always properly supervised) and apparently his little sister has caught on. Although, I suppose, not entirely... when you're only 6 you don't comprehend how big the world is. Then in school, maybe, you're led to believe our planet is expansive and diverse - and it is, of course, in many ways - before you circle back again, and question that, and recognize how, in other ways, it's not as big as you thought... or so it's been for me; I seem to alternate between those polar sentiments. I experience 'small world' moments, chance encounters, six degrees of separation, the human condition. Then I think of the volume of space at the deepest parts of our oceans, miles and miles below the surface; apparently there are even lifeforms there, eyeless fish, giant squids, enormous spider crabs (I learned this with Michael). Or I think why haven't I set foot on the African continent yet? Why haven't I been to India, or Brazil, or Fenway?
Michael is going to be Joe Mauer for Halloween. Not bad. A very relaxed, pure hitter.
Then there's Megan. Oh, Megan. A bride? Really? Can't that wait, Sweetie-heart, for, well, ever?!?!
Megan doesn't read much yet, only 'sight words' or little 'popcorn words' as they're taught in kindergarten. So when she 'reads' aloud to herself, she's aided by pictures and perhaps some memory (of an earlier adult reading), but otherwise it's imagination, improv, off-the-cuff. She's pretty good at it! She provides great meandering, colorful narration for each page, stories within stories superbly expressed. I shall hereby present to you a sterling example: Megan was reading a book about puppies and said, "She nestled him in warmness." That is a knockout, awesome sentence! Original, fluid, with an active verb, full of feeling but not too wordy, and it elicits a sort of sensory recognition or memory. Right?! It's a homerun, touch 'em all, Baby! I mean didn't just hearing that sentence make you feel warm and cozy? Even though I guess it's about a girl holding her puppy. Whatev. It's choice. The work of a master. My daughter! My lyricist, poet, wordsmith... my angel! I wish I could do that, like Megan, put words together so perfectly. I was just reminded of something, a bonus question: "It is so choice. If you have the means, I highly recommend picking one up." What character? What car?
Michael is going to be Joe Mauer for Halloween. Not bad. A very relaxed, pure hitter.
Then there's Megan. Oh, Megan. A bride? Really? Can't that wait, Sweetie-heart, for, well, ever?!?!
Megan doesn't read much yet, only 'sight words' or little 'popcorn words' as they're taught in kindergarten. So when she 'reads' aloud to herself, she's aided by pictures and perhaps some memory (of an earlier adult reading), but otherwise it's imagination, improv, off-the-cuff. She's pretty good at it! She provides great meandering, colorful narration for each page, stories within stories superbly expressed. I shall hereby present to you a sterling example: Megan was reading a book about puppies and said, "She nestled him in warmness." That is a knockout, awesome sentence! Original, fluid, with an active verb, full of feeling but not too wordy, and it elicits a sort of sensory recognition or memory. Right?! It's a homerun, touch 'em all, Baby! I mean didn't just hearing that sentence make you feel warm and cozy? Even though I guess it's about a girl holding her puppy. Whatev. It's choice. The work of a master. My daughter! My lyricist, poet, wordsmith... my angel! I wish I could do that, like Megan, put words together so perfectly. I was just reminded of something, a bonus question: "It is so choice. If you have the means, I highly recommend picking one up." What character? What car?
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Dad Entry #111
I love to watch Megan sleep. Yeah, still; it hasn't changed. Will I feel this way forever? I've decided it isn't creepy. Her college roommates might disagree. Her husband? Well, my hope is he'll have a daughter of his own, he'll understand, he'll call and say, "Ok, she's sleepin', come on over and watch her for a few, then we'll have a beer." Perfect. Except, I'll wanna peak in on my granddaughter, too. Just for a minute. That'd be swell. Sounds crazy, sure, but why would I feel any differently about Megan 30 years from now? I'll always appreciate her in peaceful repose - won't I? - as one stares for a moment at a masterpiece of art, reflecting on its timeless beauty, marveling at the creative forces that somehow produced it. Am I getting ahead of myself? I mentioned a while back that Megan was so perfectly occupying a sweet-spot of cuteness. And I lamented my belief it would end soon; I envisioned it as more of a peak than a plateau. I was wrong. Megan hasn't exited any sweet-spot yet, even though she's six now, and she was three or four back then. Her skinny jeans, her questions and comments, her voice (when it's not whiny), anything at all that she utters, her pigeon-toed-ness, her little girl imagination and thought processes, her doll-playing, her drawings, her laugh, her skirts and shirts and shoes and books... everything about her is still pretty damn cute.
Michael went to his first NFL game last Sunday. Adrian Peterson scored three TDs for him in the first quarter. AP cuts quicker than anyone in the game; it's an impressive thing to see in person. The Vikings hosted the Arizona Cardinals at the Dome. Papa and Gramma have great seats, and it's the loudest sports venue I've ever been to, a sea of screaming purple. Michael and I agreed afterwards we're still Bears fans, but it was awesome. When they blare Led Zeppelin's 'Immigrant Song' - "I come from the land of the ice and snow!" - I wanna run onto the field and tackle someone. Or everyone! I'm not sure Michael was as goose-bumped as I was at various points and plays, but it was a critical first step in the process of full-on indoctrination. Michael plays football at school now with friends. I did too for many years. Life is good.
It is impossible for my children to brush their teeth without getting toothpaste all over the sink and surrounding countertop. The only uncertainty is whether it'll be a mess of old-school white paste, or globs and streaks of blue gel. We have both.
The kids came to Motorola yesterday for lunch. They were excited. Me too. They both have multiple cell phones I've given them, ones that are old or don't make calls reliably - fallout from product development and defect resolution efforts :) - but have functional cameras, camcorders, speakers, WiFi, touchscreens, sensors, and everything else, most importantly they're capable of running all the games / puzzles / apps the kids install from the Google Android Market. They know their whiz-bang devices were designed and developed where their dad works. I hang a picture over my desk that Michael colored and wrote on a few years ago, in first grade I think; he finished the sentence, "When I am older I hope to follow in the footsteps of 'Dad. He makes phones. He is nice to me.'"
Michael went to his first NFL game last Sunday. Adrian Peterson scored three TDs for him in the first quarter. AP cuts quicker than anyone in the game; it's an impressive thing to see in person. The Vikings hosted the Arizona Cardinals at the Dome. Papa and Gramma have great seats, and it's the loudest sports venue I've ever been to, a sea of screaming purple. Michael and I agreed afterwards we're still Bears fans, but it was awesome. When they blare Led Zeppelin's 'Immigrant Song' - "I come from the land of the ice and snow!" - I wanna run onto the field and tackle someone. Or everyone! I'm not sure Michael was as goose-bumped as I was at various points and plays, but it was a critical first step in the process of full-on indoctrination. Michael plays football at school now with friends. I did too for many years. Life is good.
It is impossible for my children to brush their teeth without getting toothpaste all over the sink and surrounding countertop. The only uncertainty is whether it'll be a mess of old-school white paste, or globs and streaks of blue gel. We have both.
The kids came to Motorola yesterday for lunch. They were excited. Me too. They both have multiple cell phones I've given them, ones that are old or don't make calls reliably - fallout from product development and defect resolution efforts :) - but have functional cameras, camcorders, speakers, WiFi, touchscreens, sensors, and everything else, most importantly they're capable of running all the games / puzzles / apps the kids install from the Google Android Market. They know their whiz-bang devices were designed and developed where their dad works. I hang a picture over my desk that Michael colored and wrote on a few years ago, in first grade I think; he finished the sentence, "When I am older I hope to follow in the footsteps of 'Dad. He makes phones. He is nice to me.'"
Tuesday, October 04, 2011
And Her Sixth Year Arrives
As I flip through these photos, I am shocked that our little girl is turning six years old. How did that happen? How does she already have all these little friends? How is she old enough to need to navigate social situations that come from multiple friendships? But here we are. And she'll only keep growing. Her birthday party was at the pool...and it made her so happy! That's usually my goal. Unless she's being stubborn, and then my goal is to be more stubborn than her, regardless of how ridiculous the topic is or how miserable it makes her when I win. Did I just say that out loud?
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Take THAT, Floppy Tooth
Even a tooth that wants to hang on by a thread for weeks can't survive music class, baby! My little girl lost her first tooth on the eve of her 6th birthday...awesome!
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Dad Entry #110
Michael doesn't like to be wrong. He likes admitting it even less. I've never encountered this trait before. I've never seen a bear crap in the woods either. Okay, I've seen the former, but only a million times. Sarcasm aside, I should add this about Michael: he isn't wrong very often.
My kids have a shitload of books. Sorry, but that statement needed emphasis. Profanity works pretty well for that. If you've ever been to a movie, or a ballgame, or a bar, or a meeting at work, you know it's true. I don't recommend it, but nobody's perfect. So everywhere I turn now I see books, kids books, on the shelves - duh! - but also on the tables, chairs, beds, counters, ottomans, in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the hallway, in my car. I love it.
When I think about the things I know my kids will go through, as they grow, it's a tiny bit heartbreaking. Michael and Megan are lucky - and I am too - compared to many. But I'm not talking about poverty and destruction, severe emotional and physical pain. At least I hope I'm not! I'm talking about other 'things', as I've precisely labeled them. Difficult things. Moments of nervousness, embarrassment, sadness, betrayal, guilt. These are painful experiences too. I don't want my teenagers to cry. But they will. Prized friendships will explode - if only temporarily. They'll be rejected by the only person they'll ever love (until, a week later, they discover the next 'only person they'll ever love'). They'll make mistakes that hurt others, too. There will be accidents and missed opportunities. They'll take speech class. And then the 'only person they'll ever love' will be sitting in the front row - not even listening but this won't register - when a notecard is fumbled or missing, when cottonmouth and clamminess attack! I don't see how it's possible, but at some point my kids will experience failure, be disrespected, mocked, wrongly accused, overlooked, ignored, under-appreciated (or over-appreciated, this can have ill effects too). These things leave marks. I think of the prayer in Gethsemane, "Father, take this cup." But we are pushed into growth and change this way, like everyone else, a part of the awesomeness - thank you, Po - of being human; we are so similar. It's all good. I guess. I read a simple quote the other day: "Kids are inherently strong, not weak." True. I also read something like, "We should remember that childhood and young-adulthood are not preparation for life, but a significant portion of life itself." Also true. I wonder if my kids will even use notecards for speeches? They probably get teleprompters now.
My kids have a shitload of books. Sorry, but that statement needed emphasis. Profanity works pretty well for that. If you've ever been to a movie, or a ballgame, or a bar, or a meeting at work, you know it's true. I don't recommend it, but nobody's perfect. So everywhere I turn now I see books, kids books, on the shelves - duh! - but also on the tables, chairs, beds, counters, ottomans, in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the hallway, in my car. I love it.
When I think about the things I know my kids will go through, as they grow, it's a tiny bit heartbreaking. Michael and Megan are lucky - and I am too - compared to many. But I'm not talking about poverty and destruction, severe emotional and physical pain. At least I hope I'm not! I'm talking about other 'things', as I've precisely labeled them. Difficult things. Moments of nervousness, embarrassment, sadness, betrayal, guilt. These are painful experiences too. I don't want my teenagers to cry. But they will. Prized friendships will explode - if only temporarily. They'll be rejected by the only person they'll ever love (until, a week later, they discover the next 'only person they'll ever love'). They'll make mistakes that hurt others, too. There will be accidents and missed opportunities. They'll take speech class. And then the 'only person they'll ever love' will be sitting in the front row - not even listening but this won't register - when a notecard is fumbled or missing, when cottonmouth and clamminess attack! I don't see how it's possible, but at some point my kids will experience failure, be disrespected, mocked, wrongly accused, overlooked, ignored, under-appreciated (or over-appreciated, this can have ill effects too). These things leave marks. I think of the prayer in Gethsemane, "Father, take this cup." But we are pushed into growth and change this way, like everyone else, a part of the awesomeness - thank you, Po - of being human; we are so similar. It's all good. I guess. I read a simple quote the other day: "Kids are inherently strong, not weak." True. I also read something like, "We should remember that childhood and young-adulthood are not preparation for life, but a significant portion of life itself." Also true. I wonder if my kids will even use notecards for speeches? They probably get teleprompters now.
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Dad Entry #109
Megan saw a Sikh at the grocery store yesterday. He was wearing the customary turban (also the bracelet, another trademark). Megan giggled and said, "He looks like he tells fortunes." Hmm. Not exactly PC. I couldn't help but laugh. I've worked with Sikhs at Motorola, and know they would've chuckled at her comment, also. I respect them and their spiritual devotion and discipline, and I share with them many beliefs (e.g. belief in One Almighty God, belief in the equality of all humankind, recognition of certain obstacles to spiritual growth and wellbeing). I suppose I should've explained to Megan the turban has religious significance. But I didn't. Speaking of fortune-teller costumes, Halloween is next month!
Megan is writing phonetically now and it's AWESOME! Example: DIR MOMMY WIL U GIV ME THE UMIRGN DOL BED. Translation, although none is needed: Dear Mommy, will you give me the American Doll bed. (This was a birthday present idea.)
Holy shit, Michael has hair on his legs! Like darkish, noticeable leg hair. It's really got Sara freaked out. Me too, I guess.
Megan has not outgrown messy eating. After every meal, My Gorgeousness still has food smudges on her nose and crumbs in her eyelashes. And the corners of her mouth, her cheeks, her clothes, the chair she's sitting in, the floor around her... they all bear evidence of eating, like massive amounts of eating. I think, Geez Megan, did you get any food in your mouth?!
Sometimes I feel like Megan calls for me a lot when I'm with her. I mean A LOT. "Daddy, watch me!" and "Daddy, look at this!" and "Daddy, I need you!" She'll say, "Daddy, come see this part!" when I've turned on Cartoon Network precisely so I can peel away to do some chore. Megan's good about playing alone - as is Michael - at certain times; she plays with her dolls and I can hear her narrating dramatic scenes and conversations in her play area. But I feel a bit frustrated when she seems to pepper me with constant instructions, even if they're cheerful and bracketed by 'please' and 'thank you'. I do, however, know it won't be like this forever; some day her requests - dare I say 'commands'! - will be fewer. She won't need help reaching and moving and fixing simple things, bathing, drying, brushing hair, reading, writing, preparing food, working the TV, and so on. Someone else will zip up the backs or her dresses. When that day comes... I will be sad.
There are numerous things you revisit as a parent, fascinating things, simply because your children learn about them, and it's been 25 years or whatever since you learned about them, in detail, things we've mentioned here before like ancient Egypt, giant squids, outer space, electricity, pirates and vikings, tadpoles, lightning bugs, marsupials, magicians, bows and arrows and canons... the list is long. The latest thing that fascinates me - other than the entire human body, an appreciation I got from Megan! - is the spider web. Yeah, crazy, I know, the spider web. Megan and I were in the condo hallway yesterday and a spider was dangling right in front of us. The only explanation was that it had spun a strand of web from the ceiling, straight down about 5 feet long. It was not a big spider, and I was thinking Where the hell does all this web material come from? How does it create a rope, from material it houses internal to itself, strong enough to hold its own weight, that is hundreds of times the length of its own body? Clearly it's not a very voluminous material; it's super-thin and really, really strong. I voiced my nagging incredulity to Megan. She agreed. "How is this possible?" I asked her. She didn't answer. Nature is simply amazing sometimes. For the record - I just Googled it - spider 'silk' as it's called, has the tensile strength of high-grade steel (I've heard this before) and is about half as strong as Kevlar. Not bad. Kevlar can stop a bullet. That's how hard it is to pull it apart; same as steel. Did you know spiders produce different types of silk for different uses? And who teaches them web design? I know it's a popular field these days, but still. That was a stupid play on words, but lets hear it for spiders, Megan and I think they're pretty fascinating.
Megan is writing phonetically now and it's AWESOME! Example: DIR MOMMY WIL U GIV ME THE UMIRGN DOL BED. Translation, although none is needed: Dear Mommy, will you give me the American Doll bed. (This was a birthday present idea.)
Holy shit, Michael has hair on his legs! Like darkish, noticeable leg hair. It's really got Sara freaked out. Me too, I guess.
Megan has not outgrown messy eating. After every meal, My Gorgeousness still has food smudges on her nose and crumbs in her eyelashes. And the corners of her mouth, her cheeks, her clothes, the chair she's sitting in, the floor around her... they all bear evidence of eating, like massive amounts of eating. I think, Geez Megan, did you get any food in your mouth?!
Sometimes I feel like Megan calls for me a lot when I'm with her. I mean A LOT. "Daddy, watch me!" and "Daddy, look at this!" and "Daddy, I need you!" She'll say, "Daddy, come see this part!" when I've turned on Cartoon Network precisely so I can peel away to do some chore. Megan's good about playing alone - as is Michael - at certain times; she plays with her dolls and I can hear her narrating dramatic scenes and conversations in her play area. But I feel a bit frustrated when she seems to pepper me with constant instructions, even if they're cheerful and bracketed by 'please' and 'thank you'. I do, however, know it won't be like this forever; some day her requests - dare I say 'commands'! - will be fewer. She won't need help reaching and moving and fixing simple things, bathing, drying, brushing hair, reading, writing, preparing food, working the TV, and so on. Someone else will zip up the backs or her dresses. When that day comes... I will be sad.
There are numerous things you revisit as a parent, fascinating things, simply because your children learn about them, and it's been 25 years or whatever since you learned about them, in detail, things we've mentioned here before like ancient Egypt, giant squids, outer space, electricity, pirates and vikings, tadpoles, lightning bugs, marsupials, magicians, bows and arrows and canons... the list is long. The latest thing that fascinates me - other than the entire human body, an appreciation I got from Megan! - is the spider web. Yeah, crazy, I know, the spider web. Megan and I were in the condo hallway yesterday and a spider was dangling right in front of us. The only explanation was that it had spun a strand of web from the ceiling, straight down about 5 feet long. It was not a big spider, and I was thinking Where the hell does all this web material come from? How does it create a rope, from material it houses internal to itself, strong enough to hold its own weight, that is hundreds of times the length of its own body? Clearly it's not a very voluminous material; it's super-thin and really, really strong. I voiced my nagging incredulity to Megan. She agreed. "How is this possible?" I asked her. She didn't answer. Nature is simply amazing sometimes. For the record - I just Googled it - spider 'silk' as it's called, has the tensile strength of high-grade steel (I've heard this before) and is about half as strong as Kevlar. Not bad. Kevlar can stop a bullet. That's how hard it is to pull it apart; same as steel. Did you know spiders produce different types of silk for different uses? And who teaches them web design? I know it's a popular field these days, but still. That was a stupid play on words, but lets hear it for spiders, Megan and I think they're pretty fascinating.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Dad Entry #108
I’m in China again, just arrived, I'm in the backseat of a car leaving the airport as I type this. It’s 4:04 AM my time, 5:04 PM local. PM, just to be clear; night is day and day is night now. I’m bleary-eyed but ready for that tug-of-war with jet lag (commanding myself to 'stay awake' late in the day and then the seemingly contradictory order to 'go back to sleep' when I awake hyper-alert at 3 AM). No big deal. My driver is always able to hail me among the throng of arriving passengers departing customs, which is bordered by another mob hugging the cordoned-off exit-way. It’s pretty chaotic; I would never spot him, but he does me – every time – maybe because, like Michael and Megan, I’m tall for my age :) In China, at least, I'm a head taller than most, except for the big German dudes and UK'ers I run into, or the shady Russian 'businessmen', or the Danish oil-drillers. Nice guys, all, to be honest. It’s Monday. I spent the last five nights and every weekend minute with the kids, and in some ways our patience for each other was thinning; once or twice I felt a hint of eagerness to hand them over 100% to Sara – for two weeks – and maybe I even felt a stab of guilt, or pity for her, knowing she’s gotta do it all by herself for that extended period. Am I actually recording these thoughts? I think I'm being too honest. It’s my 6th or 7th trip to China in recent years. So I know it goes by fast, I'll be able to snuggle Megan again soon. And I should clarify about the kids over the weekend; they were mostly great and we had a blast, and, well, there are always things I could've planned and communicated better, there is always some disharmony, drama, bickering, fighting because of my decisions. Apparently I forget how much the other will protest if I let Megan pick the restaurant or Michael pick the show we'll watch. Michael's friend joined us for a while but we didn't include one of Megan's. Problem! Making trades for 'a player to be named later' never works with kids; making promises for 'next time' fall flat. Little attitudes flare, and need dousing, like the kitchen fire I, uh, experienced in the condo a few weeks ago. Anyway, next thing I know I’m getting off a plane on the other side of the world, and I see little Chinese kids - just like mine, with bright eyes and perfect skin and silly t-shirts – and that eagerness and pity I admitted earlier is turned on its head, flip-flopped, I’m eager to see my kids again asap and I pity myself now, not Sara. Of course, I should pity no one. Except for maybe everyone in our country for the recent unprecedented, unsustainable greedy nonsense perpetrated by big banks, Wall Street, politicians, the American media, realtors-and-mortgage-brokers-and-everyone-else-who-encouraged-people-with-no-money-to-'buy'-huge-homes, etc. etc. I really think we’re in uncharted territory as a country; the American dream is suddenly all about profit, possession, re-election, entertainment, instant gratification. As Americans, our freedoms are awesome and unmatched; impressively conceived and earned and protected. And that's only one of many reasons I'm grateful to be an American. But... we could use a little attitude adjustment - as a nation, in my humble opinion - when it comes to certain expectations, appetites, entitlements, excesses, distortions. Can you tell I’m sleep-deprived and crabby? I hope we can make some tough decisions and sacrifices as a country and fix things. My children are only 5 and 8 years old as I write this – their whole lives ahead of them – and I’m concerned. Sorry I digressed…. Back to the commentary about missing the kids, my mom always calls after we leave Minneapolis or they leave Chicago, and the traveling party is home safely, and my mom will say over the phone, “I miss you guys!” I know; it’s go, go, go when we’re together, and there’s a nice sigh or deep breath when we separate, but then… we miss each other!
Now on to more serious matters: in a discussion over the phone I realized Michael now places everyone into one of two buckets. It’s a very critical and revealing thing. Bucket one or bucket two? And sometimes the bucketizing process is difficult, not always clean, precise, easy to understand. Michael can be frustrated by things - statements, situations, and in this case, allegiances - that are imprecise or unclear, not to mention wavering or dispassionate. Case in point: Cassie and Georgie, Megan's twin kindergarten classmates. Michael said they're Sox fans. Gasp! How can this be?! They're so young and innocent, and precocious... and yet they're in bucket number two! But Michael's certain their dad, Chris, is a Cubs fan. Is this a family divided? Confused? Were Cassie and Georgie bamboozled by cruel or ignorant schoolmates? Who knows. And Megan, she changes buckets regularly, just to annoy Michael I’m sure. When I’m around, she's a proud Cubs fan. She doesn't eat otherwise. But Michael insists she has traitorous moments. Maybe she spouts off about how awesome Konerko is. If so, she has a point (Michael and I both respect Konerko). But there were so many Sox fans at a party Michael went to recently that he remarked, “It was a disaster.” That’s my boy!
Now on to more serious matters: in a discussion over the phone I realized Michael now places everyone into one of two buckets. It’s a very critical and revealing thing. Bucket one or bucket two? And sometimes the bucketizing process is difficult, not always clean, precise, easy to understand. Michael can be frustrated by things - statements, situations, and in this case, allegiances - that are imprecise or unclear, not to mention wavering or dispassionate. Case in point: Cassie and Georgie, Megan's twin kindergarten classmates. Michael said they're Sox fans. Gasp! How can this be?! They're so young and innocent, and precocious... and yet they're in bucket number two! But Michael's certain their dad, Chris, is a Cubs fan. Is this a family divided? Confused? Were Cassie and Georgie bamboozled by cruel or ignorant schoolmates? Who knows. And Megan, she changes buckets regularly, just to annoy Michael I’m sure. When I’m around, she's a proud Cubs fan. She doesn't eat otherwise. But Michael insists she has traitorous moments. Maybe she spouts off about how awesome Konerko is. If so, she has a point (Michael and I both respect Konerko). But there were so many Sox fans at a party Michael went to recently that he remarked, “It was a disaster.” That’s my boy!
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
First Day of School 2011
3rd grade!
(If you're wondering, yes, his shirt is on backwards)
Kindergarten with Mrs Kravitz!
(if you're wondering, yes, that's a bird nest on her head)
(If you're wondering, yes, his shirt is on backwards)
Kindergarten with Mrs Kravitz!
(if you're wondering, yes, that's a bird nest on her head)
Monday, August 22, 2011
Wild Ride
2 days in the Wisconsin Dells was a fun treat for us a few days before school begins...we went with two other families that we are friends with through school, the Roes and the Storellis. We had a great time. The kids (8 total) were such great companions for one another...there was always someone wanting to do the same thing, ride the same ride. No major meltdowns or arguments made for a really good first travel-with-other-families experience. Michael rode The Hurricane (which scared ME) and yelled on the way down, "I DON'T LIIIIIKE THIIIIS!!!"
Meg was less adventurous on the slide front, but I have realized that probably that is for the best...that she is simply relying on her own water comfort. She can swim, no problem, but when the current is churning the water all around, she may just know better for now. Like one of the other little girls there told me, "I really like water slides, but my tummy doesn't always agree with me."
Here are my kids sucked into their DSs within minutes of waking up in the morning; Michael with the friend he brought (the other 6 kids were girls, so I offered some mercy); and all of the kids on the trip EXCEPT mine in front of the funny car that brought us dinner.
Good times all around.
Meg was less adventurous on the slide front, but I have realized that probably that is for the best...that she is simply relying on her own water comfort. She can swim, no problem, but when the current is churning the water all around, she may just know better for now. Like one of the other little girls there told me, "I really like water slides, but my tummy doesn't always agree with me."
Here are my kids sucked into their DSs within minutes of waking up in the morning; Michael with the friend he brought (the other 6 kids were girls, so I offered some mercy); and all of the kids on the trip EXCEPT mine in front of the funny car that brought us dinner.
Good times all around.
Dad Entry #107
Michael and I went to his first Cubs game. It was awesome. The Cubs came from behind and beat the Cardinals in the 10th, 5-4. Extra innings victories by the home team are cool, of course, because the game ends abruptly when the winning run crosses and players storm the field to celebrate and congratulate whoever hit the game-winner. We saw it all! I admit I got a little misty-eyed when the game started. Wrigley is my baseball mecca; I've been going for decades, even lived nearby for a few years after college. Pujols stepped in during the top of the first. We were in the upper deck, but on an edge near home plate looking right down at him. Michael said, "He's probably the best hitter in baseball, isn't he?" I said, "Yep, maybe not this year, but at points in his career he's been more feared and pitched around than any active hitter, the best, I agree." Pujols broke his wrist this season, and his numbers are down a bit. Anyway, I encouraged Michael to watch the batters closely, watch how each digs in, gets set, rocks a little, moves the bat, then strides and gets after it. He understood my point, and each hitter's stance become a topic of discussion, along with all the other nuances of the game. There are so many games within the game. He was interested and attentive the whole 10 innings, to both the overall game and also the little things I suggested he notice, the fielders' movements before each pitch, the baserunners, the hitters on deck, pitching from the stretch, pitching from the windup, the pitchers in the bullpen, the way pitchers rubbed the baseball and maintained the mound and used sweat and rosin and dirt on their hands, how they changed speeds and located pitches and fooled hitters, and the way hitters responded by looking for certain pitches and adjusting and maybe shortening their swing to slap a pitch the other way instead of taking a bigger, nastier cut. Maybe I went overboard - do I sound insane? - but Michael took it all in; he always seemed interested. And, keep in mind, we sat there for over three hours; there was a lot of silence too, I didn't talk his ear off. Like I said, it was a perfect first Wrigley experience for my son. But as we sat watching Pujols, in his first at-bat, after he'd dug a little place for his back foot and planted it and was ready to go, I capped my instruction about watching each hitter's idiosyncrasies and habits before every pitch... I said, "When you bat, Michael, that is YOUR batter's box! You dig in, get set, take your time, get comfortable and confident and you hit it hard." Honestly - I may edit this part out - I had to consciously refrain from inserting expletives in one or two places in my little hitter's speech to Michael, the way I might've 'brightened' similar encouragement to a softball teammate, with no kids around. It does help to add emphasis sometimes :) Anyway, I felt some emotion well up when I said that to him and I had to pull the sunglasses on my head back down over my eyes. By the way, Starlin Castro is uber-talented, a hitting machine. And Michael was thrilled to see Aramis Ramirez, Alfonso Soriano, Marmol, Pena, Soto and the rest of the gang. There were home runs, stolen bases, pitching changes, pinch hitters, errors, Cubs fans throwing Cardinals' home runs back onto the field, and Soriano was hit by a pitch. It was a good sample of America's Favorite Pastime.
Megan notified me the other day, "Daddy, I will not use our bathroom anymore, it's too hairy." I said, "What?" Speaking louder this time - I guess she thought I was deaf instead of incredulous - Megan said, "The bathroom is too hairy. I'm going to brush in the other bathroom sink, or the kitchen. It's too hairy!" I checked it out, and she had a point. I hadn't cleaned up my beard stubble enough after my last shave. I will not make that mistake again.
Sara took the kids to the Wisconsin Dells yesterday for a Sunday / Monday good time before school starts on Wednesday. Megan called and said, "I just wanted to say 'hi' Daddy." I said, "Honey, thank you so much, do you promise to do this every day of your life, even when you're in college, or with your own family, or on Mars or wherever, do you promise to call me lots and lots, every day, just to say hi?" I think I confused her; she didn't really answer the question. Then I asked her about the waterslides and the conversation got back on track.
Megan's favorite song in my car's CD player right now is 'The Foggy Dew' by The Young Dubliners. Check it out on iTunes. Honestly, I didn't push it on her at all, she likes my 'Irish Music' but I never thought she'd want this one played over and over.
Megan notified me the other day, "Daddy, I will not use our bathroom anymore, it's too hairy." I said, "What?" Speaking louder this time - I guess she thought I was deaf instead of incredulous - Megan said, "The bathroom is too hairy. I'm going to brush in the other bathroom sink, or the kitchen. It's too hairy!" I checked it out, and she had a point. I hadn't cleaned up my beard stubble enough after my last shave. I will not make that mistake again.
Sara took the kids to the Wisconsin Dells yesterday for a Sunday / Monday good time before school starts on Wednesday. Megan called and said, "I just wanted to say 'hi' Daddy." I said, "Honey, thank you so much, do you promise to do this every day of your life, even when you're in college, or with your own family, or on Mars or wherever, do you promise to call me lots and lots, every day, just to say hi?" I think I confused her; she didn't really answer the question. Then I asked her about the waterslides and the conversation got back on track.
Megan's favorite song in my car's CD player right now is 'The Foggy Dew' by The Young Dubliners. Check it out on iTunes. Honestly, I didn't push it on her at all, she likes my 'Irish Music' but I never thought she'd want this one played over and over.
Thursday, August 18, 2011
Dad Entry #106
All those times I've described Michael as easy-going.... not so sure anymore. He has a real nice competitive streak in him. He's furious right now cause he's losing in Wii bowling. I mean, who gives a crap about Wii bowling. But, BUT, I understand; I don't like losing either, unless it's to someone who could really use a boost, and, well, the prestige of beating me at something. But my opponents in golf, or on opposing softball or basketball teams... they don't need a boost, another win. So, generally speaking, I agree with Michael. Stomp on 'em! Grind 'em into dust!
Michael is the king of saying his plate or snack cup or dessert bowl is empty, so he wants more, when - hello! - it's not empty at all! Example: he will have a medium sized taco salad on his plate and then ask for one last taco. Dude, eat the 2.5 servings of food still on your plate. Please. Then we'll talk. Last night, we had chicken pot pies that Michael picked out, and I baked one for each of us and Michael said he was done and wanted more, which I was concerned about because I'd already wolfed mine and half of Megan's, but I looked into Michael's bowl and he had like five bites left! I said, "Michael, I see chicken and carrots in there still. And a big piece of crust! CRUST for crying out loud, Michael! That's the best part!" Does this sound silly and petty. Of course it does. But ask Sara, I think she'd agree it's annoying. Maybe his only flaw.
Megan choked on an orange wedge yesterday, peeled but apparently still pulpy or pithy enough to get stuck in her throat. Her eyes widened a bit and she gagged and my heart went, very suddenly, from 60 beats per minute to about 560. It's funny, we've all had scary and sudden moments and it's during these instants that the situation, our activities and surroundings, do appear to slow, or at least our thoughts quicken. Would you agree? Have you ever heard of the 'Third Man Factor' or phenomenon? Google it. A calming presence sets in; it's not enough to relax me or anything, but maybe it takes my heart rate from 560 down to 160. So I watched her closely, gagging, and had a few thoughts, mainly, she's only been choking for about 3 seconds now, she can try to get it out naturally for a few more seconds, e.g. throw-up or gag it out, before you really have to worry about her breath, but if it gets to that you're gonna very deliberately and forcefully lift her still-pretty-little-body out of that chair and give her a reasonably violent Heimlich, because at that point, you don't care about sore tummies or ribs, you care about dislodging that (insert your go-to expletive here) piece of food out of her airway. Believe it or not, that entire thought string only took about half a second. She gagged it up and out on the second or third try. No barfing or anything. But it was better than a Starbucks triple espresso for my excitement level.
In the car this morning, Michael said, "I had a dream last night. The police were there. They were, like, looking for us, me and Nahum and Alex." After that intro, I was listening. Closely! Michael continued, "Then we were talking with them. And I think we, like, had to go to jail maybe, for like 24 hours or something." I managed to say, "Really?" Then Michael asked, "How much does it cost to get someone out of jail?" I told him it depends on the crime, it's very expensive for serious crimes and then you're only out until your trial to determine if you're guilty or not. I think Megan sensed we were both rattled by the discussion. She said, "Don't worry Michael, the police don't take little kids to jail, only teenagers for speeding. Right, Dad?" Yes, Sweetheart. Exactly right.
Michael is the king of saying his plate or snack cup or dessert bowl is empty, so he wants more, when - hello! - it's not empty at all! Example: he will have a medium sized taco salad on his plate and then ask for one last taco. Dude, eat the 2.5 servings of food still on your plate. Please. Then we'll talk. Last night, we had chicken pot pies that Michael picked out, and I baked one for each of us and Michael said he was done and wanted more, which I was concerned about because I'd already wolfed mine and half of Megan's, but I looked into Michael's bowl and he had like five bites left! I said, "Michael, I see chicken and carrots in there still. And a big piece of crust! CRUST for crying out loud, Michael! That's the best part!" Does this sound silly and petty. Of course it does. But ask Sara, I think she'd agree it's annoying. Maybe his only flaw.
Megan choked on an orange wedge yesterday, peeled but apparently still pulpy or pithy enough to get stuck in her throat. Her eyes widened a bit and she gagged and my heart went, very suddenly, from 60 beats per minute to about 560. It's funny, we've all had scary and sudden moments and it's during these instants that the situation, our activities and surroundings, do appear to slow, or at least our thoughts quicken. Would you agree? Have you ever heard of the 'Third Man Factor' or phenomenon? Google it. A calming presence sets in; it's not enough to relax me or anything, but maybe it takes my heart rate from 560 down to 160. So I watched her closely, gagging, and had a few thoughts, mainly, she's only been choking for about 3 seconds now, she can try to get it out naturally for a few more seconds, e.g. throw-up or gag it out, before you really have to worry about her breath, but if it gets to that you're gonna very deliberately and forcefully lift her still-pretty-little-body out of that chair and give her a reasonably violent Heimlich, because at that point, you don't care about sore tummies or ribs, you care about dislodging that (insert your go-to expletive here) piece of food out of her airway. Believe it or not, that entire thought string only took about half a second. She gagged it up and out on the second or third try. No barfing or anything. But it was better than a Starbucks triple espresso for my excitement level.
In the car this morning, Michael said, "I had a dream last night. The police were there. They were, like, looking for us, me and Nahum and Alex." After that intro, I was listening. Closely! Michael continued, "Then we were talking with them. And I think we, like, had to go to jail maybe, for like 24 hours or something." I managed to say, "Really?" Then Michael asked, "How much does it cost to get someone out of jail?" I told him it depends on the crime, it's very expensive for serious crimes and then you're only out until your trial to determine if you're guilty or not. I think Megan sensed we were both rattled by the discussion. She said, "Don't worry Michael, the police don't take little kids to jail, only teenagers for speeding. Right, Dad?" Yes, Sweetheart. Exactly right.
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Quotables
Me: Michael, you have FUR on your teeth. You need to brush them better! Meg, let me see yours.
Inspection
Me: They look great! Good brushing! How do you get em so clean? Tell your brother.
Megan: I just brush them til they're sobbing with toothpaste.
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After an attempt to explain something to me and Meg:
Michael: DUH, people!
Me: Michael...that's not super nice.
Michael: What? I said 'da PEOPLE. Like da people of the United States.'
Inspection
Me: They look great! Good brushing! How do you get em so clean? Tell your brother.
Megan: I just brush them til they're sobbing with toothpaste.
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After an attempt to explain something to me and Meg:
Michael: DUH, people!
Me: Michael...that's not super nice.
Michael: What? I said 'da PEOPLE. Like da people of the United States.'
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Dad Entry #105
Michael and I were talking baseball.
Michael: "Who's your favorite first baseman right now?"
Me: "Joey Votto. But he's not gonna win NL MVP again this year. Seems like a nice, humble guy though, and a hard worker."
Michael: "Favorite catcher?"
Me: "Mauer."
Michael: "Yeah, mine too. Second base?"
Me: "Dustin Pedroia. But my goodness is Dan Uggla scorching hot right now after a slow start."
Michael: "Hmm, I like Robbie Cano. Shortstop?"
Me: "Easy. Starlin Castro. The kid's batting over 300 and he's practically your age. And he's a Cubbie!"
And so on. Eventually Michael asked Megan - thankfully she'd been working on a DQ double chocolate cone so was okay with all the baseball talk - "Who's your favorite player?" Megan, my precious little sweetheart said, "Daddy!" Clearly that didn't work for Michael though; he said, "No, really Megan, who's your favorite major league player?" Megan said happily, "I like all the good players!" Michael, smelling weakness, kept going. Maybe he'll be a litigator some day. He said, "Great Megan, you can't even name a favorite player." This crossed the line - or maybe he did when he ridiculed Megan's 'Daddy' answer - so I shut it down, "Michael, back off, she's not a baseball super-fan, an expert, she doesn't have hundreds of cards like you, if we're talking about favorite Barbies, can she jump all over you if you don't have a perfect answer?" So Michael, from his heels, in a kind of parrying move, said, "I know Barbies." To which I mumbled, "I wouldn't brag about that, Kid." And then, sure-footed now, he'd clearly thought of something, he added, "In fact, I'd say my favorite Barbie is Ken." He was kinda smug when he said it, chin raised slightly. And yet he knew it was a silly comeback, a silly argument; he smiled just a little. Even so, I was impressed; he'd held his position beyond the point I would've acquiesced. Although, of course, I would've never held his position in the first place because he was WRONG! My stance on this important matter: Ken is Ken, not Barbie, not a Barbie you can choose from as your favorite. Barbies include Barbie Mariposa, Barbie Fairytopia, Mermaid Barbie; there's Rocker-, Fashion-, Malibu-, Holiday-, Wedding-, Denim- and Corvette-Barbie. Sign Language Barbie. Castle Barbie. Good lord. Farrah-Fawcett-in-that-red-swimsuit Barbie. No shit. I just googled it. And Barbie has about a hundred friends with different names, hair and skin color, etc. See, I'm a good Dad. And she thinks I only like baseball.
Speaking of baseball... we were watching the Cubs and Meggie said, "Dad, the baseball players spit on their court. It's crazy, right? You can't spit on your court!" I didn't have the heart to tell her I'd spit on baseball 'courts' a million times in my life, sometimes with tobacco in my mouth. Don't tell Grandma Barb. When I was a kid playing ball she said, "I don't ever want to see you spit." So I had to make sure she wasn't looking when I spit. Thankfully, Megan didn't comment on all the adjusting of cups and private parts that goes on in baseball. Grandma Barb did though, over the years.
Megan is pigeon-toed. And skinny.
I like it when I see something shiny in the carpet, tiny but noticeable. Sure, I'm a man: "Ooh, look! Shiny!" Anyway, I notice it and lean down and see that it's a single sequin. Another reminder I have a daughter. Debris from one of her crazy glam outfits. The woman at Crate & Barrel yesterday called Megan a 'little fashionista!' And two other women applauded her shoes which are slip-on heels with white feathery boa material on the toes, along with a single pink ribbon rose. And she slipped and nearly fell down the concrete condo stairs in those damn shoes; but I grabbed her arm to keep her upright before I even processed what was going on, luckily I was right next to her. And then all I could think was, this is not good.
Michael grabbed a bag of 'Flamin' Hot' Cheetos at Subway. I said, "You aren't gonna like 'em." He said, "No, I like them, I had them already with Nahum (pronounced Nigh-ome, rhymes with home, his friend and classmate)." I said, "You won't finish 'em and you're gonna be hungry for other chips and you're not gonna get any." To Michael's credit, he ate the whole bag. But it took him three days. I didn't force him. He just kept them and had a few with each of the next several meals.
Michael: "Who's your favorite first baseman right now?"
Me: "Joey Votto. But he's not gonna win NL MVP again this year. Seems like a nice, humble guy though, and a hard worker."
Michael: "Favorite catcher?"
Me: "Mauer."
Michael: "Yeah, mine too. Second base?"
Me: "Dustin Pedroia. But my goodness is Dan Uggla scorching hot right now after a slow start."
Michael: "Hmm, I like Robbie Cano. Shortstop?"
Me: "Easy. Starlin Castro. The kid's batting over 300 and he's practically your age. And he's a Cubbie!"
And so on. Eventually Michael asked Megan - thankfully she'd been working on a DQ double chocolate cone so was okay with all the baseball talk - "Who's your favorite player?" Megan, my precious little sweetheart said, "Daddy!" Clearly that didn't work for Michael though; he said, "No, really Megan, who's your favorite major league player?" Megan said happily, "I like all the good players!" Michael, smelling weakness, kept going. Maybe he'll be a litigator some day. He said, "Great Megan, you can't even name a favorite player." This crossed the line - or maybe he did when he ridiculed Megan's 'Daddy' answer - so I shut it down, "Michael, back off, she's not a baseball super-fan, an expert, she doesn't have hundreds of cards like you, if we're talking about favorite Barbies, can she jump all over you if you don't have a perfect answer?" So Michael, from his heels, in a kind of parrying move, said, "I know Barbies." To which I mumbled, "I wouldn't brag about that, Kid." And then, sure-footed now, he'd clearly thought of something, he added, "In fact, I'd say my favorite Barbie is Ken." He was kinda smug when he said it, chin raised slightly. And yet he knew it was a silly comeback, a silly argument; he smiled just a little. Even so, I was impressed; he'd held his position beyond the point I would've acquiesced. Although, of course, I would've never held his position in the first place because he was WRONG! My stance on this important matter: Ken is Ken, not Barbie, not a Barbie you can choose from as your favorite. Barbies include Barbie Mariposa, Barbie Fairytopia, Mermaid Barbie; there's Rocker-, Fashion-, Malibu-, Holiday-, Wedding-, Denim- and Corvette-Barbie. Sign Language Barbie. Castle Barbie. Good lord. Farrah-Fawcett-in-that-red-swimsuit Barbie. No shit. I just googled it. And Barbie has about a hundred friends with different names, hair and skin color, etc. See, I'm a good Dad. And she thinks I only like baseball.
Speaking of baseball... we were watching the Cubs and Meggie said, "Dad, the baseball players spit on their court. It's crazy, right? You can't spit on your court!" I didn't have the heart to tell her I'd spit on baseball 'courts' a million times in my life, sometimes with tobacco in my mouth. Don't tell Grandma Barb. When I was a kid playing ball she said, "I don't ever want to see you spit." So I had to make sure she wasn't looking when I spit. Thankfully, Megan didn't comment on all the adjusting of cups and private parts that goes on in baseball. Grandma Barb did though, over the years.
Megan is pigeon-toed. And skinny.
I like it when I see something shiny in the carpet, tiny but noticeable. Sure, I'm a man: "Ooh, look! Shiny!" Anyway, I notice it and lean down and see that it's a single sequin. Another reminder I have a daughter. Debris from one of her crazy glam outfits. The woman at Crate & Barrel yesterday called Megan a 'little fashionista!' And two other women applauded her shoes which are slip-on heels with white feathery boa material on the toes, along with a single pink ribbon rose. And she slipped and nearly fell down the concrete condo stairs in those damn shoes; but I grabbed her arm to keep her upright before I even processed what was going on, luckily I was right next to her. And then all I could think was, this is not good.
Michael grabbed a bag of 'Flamin' Hot' Cheetos at Subway. I said, "You aren't gonna like 'em." He said, "No, I like them, I had them already with Nahum (pronounced Nigh-ome, rhymes with home, his friend and classmate)." I said, "You won't finish 'em and you're gonna be hungry for other chips and you're not gonna get any." To Michael's credit, he ate the whole bag. But it took him three days. I didn't force him. He just kept them and had a few with each of the next several meals.
Sunday, August 07, 2011
Dad Entry #104
Megan likes to make her bed. She organizes and props up her 'pets' - her stuffed animals - and straightens her sheets. She's so cute it's crazy. But she's irritated with me right now; She said, "Dad, how come you just wanna play baseball with Michael all the time?" This broke my heart a little. I said, "That's not true, Lover-Dove, I like to play with you too." Wanna go hit some balls off the tee?
Megan asks to do dishes now. No kidding. "Daddy, put some water in the sink please so I can do dishes." First of all, everything goes in the dishwasher, Sweetheart. I don't care if it melts. And second, my daughter ain't gonna do no dishes. That's what your husband'll be for. I suppose that's not funny.
I like to fold Megan's laundry. It reminds me that I have a daughter. And that she's small.
I'm afraid that every time I take out Megan's pigtail rubber-bands I pull out clumps of her hair. I don't hurt her; I know how to avoid that, and she doesn't wince or complain, and she's not developing any bald spots, but somehow despite excruciating care I end up with strands of hair entangled in my fingers, along with the rubber-band. It's a pain in the butt; how do chicks deal with this everyday? My current strategy for my own hair: let it fall out. It's working. I take out Megan's hairbands before bath-time. During her bath, I have a new habit of encouraging a quick rinse of the conditioner. Megan always responds by saying, "No Dad, you have to wait a few minutes, you have to give the conditioner time to condish." Condish? Whatever, it sounds cute and I haven't heard it enough yet to quit provoking her to say it.
Michael is so into baseball. I'll be in the middle of a bedtime story, an improv' one, to both Megan and Michael (sidenote: this is challenging as my audience is diverse, and, as I've whined here before, telling stories fluidly, creatively, vividly, like it's depicted in bedtime or campfire scenes in the movies is not so easy), so I'll be weaving something pretty silly but it's working; the kids are listening; I can tell because they're attentive, they add commentary here and there, and provide direction (e.g. I'll ask, "Should the Pirate ship fire canons at the Viking boats or make a run for the sea cave?" and the kids will answer). So I'll be describing how the warrior (who we'll have named something like Killabrew, Turkalew, Servo, Shen, Jimenez, or The Monk, The Blacksmith, The Joiner... all characters we've told stories about), anyway, I'll be telling how the warrior jumps off the castle rampart and lands right on the guard, but this sends them both sprawling, and they crash into the glass tank where they're keeping the mermaid, this is very bad of course cause the tank shatters, and mermaids need water - duh! - and they're miles from the sea - but we can dip her in the castle moat! - and the silence in the castle is broken now, more guards are streaming in, and dogs are barking suddenly, big ones like the Lindgrens' German Shepherds, but aren't dogs friendly to mermaids, can't they read each other's thoughts, and communicate telepathically; will the dogs help the mermaid and the outnumbered warrior?! And I'm getting kind of excited because here I've gotten the story to a crescendo of sorts, and as I said earlier, it's not easy to do this on a semi-regular basis, and then, and then, Michael will blurt, "Dad, is Matt Holliday having a good season?" You know how a balloon deflates, looping and twisting and shrinking. And the sound. Maybe I'm a lousy storyteller. But I know he was listening too, because he'd spoken up a few times about the story, but if there was a PC 'Task Manager' that I could open to see what applications are running inside Michael's head, right there next to 'Bedtime Story Program' I would see 'Baseball Card Appraiser'. It's pretty much a background app these days, always running alongside 'Eat', 'Drink', 'Be Condescending to Megan' and all the others, often interrupting them in fact with an urgent question or concern. I love it, and here's why: I remember being the same way. Obsessed with the value of my cards, which is driven by player performance, of course. We have a lot of OCD in the family already though, not sure I wanna provide or support perfect vehicles for its expression and remarkable development. But who doesn't love baseball cards? So I answer Michael, "Matt Holliday's production is down a little this year, Bud, in general I'd say, but Berkman has really picked up the slack for the Cards, and you've got Pujols to worry about too if you're a pitcher, so Holliday's gonna see good pitches, and I think he's been heating up lately; he's still Matt Holliday. Anyway, so the mermaid's beautiful shiny tail is starting to dry...."
Megan asks to do dishes now. No kidding. "Daddy, put some water in the sink please so I can do dishes." First of all, everything goes in the dishwasher, Sweetheart. I don't care if it melts. And second, my daughter ain't gonna do no dishes. That's what your husband'll be for. I suppose that's not funny.
I like to fold Megan's laundry. It reminds me that I have a daughter. And that she's small.
I'm afraid that every time I take out Megan's pigtail rubber-bands I pull out clumps of her hair. I don't hurt her; I know how to avoid that, and she doesn't wince or complain, and she's not developing any bald spots, but somehow despite excruciating care I end up with strands of hair entangled in my fingers, along with the rubber-band. It's a pain in the butt; how do chicks deal with this everyday? My current strategy for my own hair: let it fall out. It's working. I take out Megan's hairbands before bath-time. During her bath, I have a new habit of encouraging a quick rinse of the conditioner. Megan always responds by saying, "No Dad, you have to wait a few minutes, you have to give the conditioner time to condish." Condish? Whatever, it sounds cute and I haven't heard it enough yet to quit provoking her to say it.
Michael is so into baseball. I'll be in the middle of a bedtime story, an improv' one, to both Megan and Michael (sidenote: this is challenging as my audience is diverse, and, as I've whined here before, telling stories fluidly, creatively, vividly, like it's depicted in bedtime or campfire scenes in the movies is not so easy), so I'll be weaving something pretty silly but it's working; the kids are listening; I can tell because they're attentive, they add commentary here and there, and provide direction (e.g. I'll ask, "Should the Pirate ship fire canons at the Viking boats or make a run for the sea cave?" and the kids will answer). So I'll be describing how the warrior (who we'll have named something like Killabrew, Turkalew, Servo, Shen, Jimenez, or The Monk, The Blacksmith, The Joiner... all characters we've told stories about), anyway, I'll be telling how the warrior jumps off the castle rampart and lands right on the guard, but this sends them both sprawling, and they crash into the glass tank where they're keeping the mermaid, this is very bad of course cause the tank shatters, and mermaids need water - duh! - and they're miles from the sea - but we can dip her in the castle moat! - and the silence in the castle is broken now, more guards are streaming in, and dogs are barking suddenly, big ones like the Lindgrens' German Shepherds, but aren't dogs friendly to mermaids, can't they read each other's thoughts, and communicate telepathically; will the dogs help the mermaid and the outnumbered warrior?! And I'm getting kind of excited because here I've gotten the story to a crescendo of sorts, and as I said earlier, it's not easy to do this on a semi-regular basis, and then, and then, Michael will blurt, "Dad, is Matt Holliday having a good season?" You know how a balloon deflates, looping and twisting and shrinking. And the sound. Maybe I'm a lousy storyteller. But I know he was listening too, because he'd spoken up a few times about the story, but if there was a PC 'Task Manager' that I could open to see what applications are running inside Michael's head, right there next to 'Bedtime Story Program' I would see 'Baseball Card Appraiser'. It's pretty much a background app these days, always running alongside 'Eat', 'Drink', 'Be Condescending to Megan' and all the others, often interrupting them in fact with an urgent question or concern. I love it, and here's why: I remember being the same way. Obsessed with the value of my cards, which is driven by player performance, of course. We have a lot of OCD in the family already though, not sure I wanna provide or support perfect vehicles for its expression and remarkable development. But who doesn't love baseball cards? So I answer Michael, "Matt Holliday's production is down a little this year, Bud, in general I'd say, but Berkman has really picked up the slack for the Cards, and you've got Pujols to worry about too if you're a pitcher, so Holliday's gonna see good pitches, and I think he's been heating up lately; he's still Matt Holliday. Anyway, so the mermaid's beautiful shiny tail is starting to dry...."
Tuesday, August 02, 2011
Dad Entry #103
Michael received rave reviews from friends and family in Clear Lake. He's bright, happy, fun, energetic, polite, easy-going. He eats a lot; he laughs a lot. He goes with the flow, or can be persuaded to do so after minimal grumbling. My friends Sharon and Todd agreed, "We're just really impressed with Michael; he's cool, nice, smart. He's awesome." And he's crazy about baseball right now. I'm adding that part, not Todd and Sharon :) Michael will provoke Megan occasionally, and be condescending to her - which I have zero tolerance for even if he's right and she's wrong - but I'll say here what I tell him regularly: I feel very lucky to have him for a son. I don't mention this next part to him, as we are father and son right now, first and foremost, but I look forward to the times we'll have together, out there in the future, as just adults, friends, peers, men. We'll always be father and son of course, but looking at the world together, and our family, as equals during the highs and lows we'll experience... I think it'll be great to have Michael in my corner, and to be there for him, also.
I believe most five-year-olds can grasp the basics of earning and spending (even if the federal government can't). When you earn, you get money; when you spend, you lose it. And the latter can't exceed the former (unless you're the federal government, in which case it can do so by 14 trillion). But Megan gets confused - and angry! - when dealing with more abstract and delayed monetary concepts like saving, change (money left after a purchase), currency (she thinks five ones are worth more than one five), loans ('pay me back from your piggy bank when we get home'), and decisions like 'should I buy one big thing or three small ones?!' Yes, also problems analogous to our mismanaged federal government, and I haven't even mentioned how Megan struggles with freebies yet, when I buy her a little something, my concerns about her future expectations and dependencies; more fodder for partisan pundits if the topic was politics and not my sweetheart. It's so much nicer to talk about Megan. So Sara had a garage sale. Megan sold more of her old toys than Michael; she made $21 to Michael's $14. But Sara doled Megan's out in 3 bills (a little math problem for ya!), whereas Michael got 5. A meltdown ensued. Megan insisted she was getting less, and she can be so impressively stubborn, even when dead wrong, that attempts to explain or persuade are simply hopeless. Meltdowns are rare, and then only 'Category 1' I'd say, you know, the kind that blow shingles off the roof and knock over trees, nothing serious like tossing cars and homes around. I wouldn't say my Sweetheart is super-volatile, just super-stubborn. We're working on it, but life happens and there's no better teacher.
Megan asked me, "Does Grandma love me and Michael more than you?" Funny how kids - and too many adults - like to keep score, or try to put things or understand them in this kind of order. I thought, Of course not! My mommy loves me the most! Kidding. Sort of. I should've given her the canned 'Grandma loves her kids and grandkids all the same' response. Instead, I said, "I don't know, what do you think?" Megan said, in a quieter, more compassionate tone, as if she felt sorry for me, "Yeah, I think she loves us more."
I believe most five-year-olds can grasp the basics of earning and spending (even if the federal government can't). When you earn, you get money; when you spend, you lose it. And the latter can't exceed the former (unless you're the federal government, in which case it can do so by 14 trillion). But Megan gets confused - and angry! - when dealing with more abstract and delayed monetary concepts like saving, change (money left after a purchase), currency (she thinks five ones are worth more than one five), loans ('pay me back from your piggy bank when we get home'), and decisions like 'should I buy one big thing or three small ones?!' Yes, also problems analogous to our mismanaged federal government, and I haven't even mentioned how Megan struggles with freebies yet, when I buy her a little something, my concerns about her future expectations and dependencies; more fodder for partisan pundits if the topic was politics and not my sweetheart. It's so much nicer to talk about Megan. So Sara had a garage sale. Megan sold more of her old toys than Michael; she made $21 to Michael's $14. But Sara doled Megan's out in 3 bills (a little math problem for ya!), whereas Michael got 5. A meltdown ensued. Megan insisted she was getting less, and she can be so impressively stubborn, even when dead wrong, that attempts to explain or persuade are simply hopeless. Meltdowns are rare, and then only 'Category 1' I'd say, you know, the kind that blow shingles off the roof and knock over trees, nothing serious like tossing cars and homes around. I wouldn't say my Sweetheart is super-volatile, just super-stubborn. We're working on it, but life happens and there's no better teacher.
Megan asked me, "Does Grandma love me and Michael more than you?" Funny how kids - and too many adults - like to keep score, or try to put things or understand them in this kind of order. I thought, Of course not! My mommy loves me the most! Kidding. Sort of. I should've given her the canned 'Grandma loves her kids and grandkids all the same' response. Instead, I said, "I don't know, what do you think?" Megan said, in a quieter, more compassionate tone, as if she felt sorry for me, "Yeah, I think she loves us more."
Friday, July 29, 2011
Quotables
MICHAEL
With reading considered a completed lesson for Michael, I hear lots of peanut gallery-esque remarks from him as he reads his way through life. Last week on the way home from Kansas, we passed one of my favorite signs: Terrible's Casino. It is an at least 100' tall sign in the shape of a handlebar-mustachioed man complete with ten gallon hat. As we passed it, I heard him mutter, "Well THERE'S a great way to kill your money."
MEGAN
Conversation today with Megan:
Meg: "How many 100s makes 1,000?"
Me: " 10."
Megan: "That. BROKE. My brain."
With reading considered a completed lesson for Michael, I hear lots of peanut gallery-esque remarks from him as he reads his way through life. Last week on the way home from Kansas, we passed one of my favorite signs: Terrible's Casino. It is an at least 100' tall sign in the shape of a handlebar-mustachioed man complete with ten gallon hat. As we passed it, I heard him mutter, "Well THERE'S a great way to kill your money."
MEGAN
Conversation today with Megan:
Meg: "How many 100s makes 1,000?"
Me: " 10."
Megan: "That. BROKE. My brain."
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Dad Entry #102
Megan said, "I saw a picture of you when you were little, Daddy." She said it like it was a secretive or scandalous discovery of some sort. I said, "Yeah, it's true, I was little once, smaller than you even." Then I asked, "Was I cute?" Megan said, "Yes, but then you grew up to be 16 and went to your own house and fed yourself." Ha, Megan's encapsulation of the passage to adulthood. Growing up. Some truth to it. Although, I didn't have my own place or 'feed myself' that young; my mom cooked for me - along with fast food joints, and my fraternity house mom and Grandma Bev at Iowa State - until I was about 20.
Michael's in Minnesota for the week. He called last night to say he won the homerun derby. Staged by Papa Mike, it was apparently a well organized event, with multiple rounds and competitor-specific distances (e.g. Michael had to hit it to the sidewalk, Ellie only past the tree). There was no Prince Fielder though, or even Daddy (I still got it, I sent one over the fence in my softball game last week, which is kinda hard to do in this thick, humid air). No prizes either, as the winner noted in my conversation with him, "I think I deserve a prize or something, don't I?" Michael hit 10. Grandma got second - she's pretty athletic, and a pretty athlete, my mom - followed by Alissa and Ellie. I'll have to watch the MLB Network for the official score and highlights.
Yesterday, out of nowhere Megan said, "Daddy, I miss watching you play basketball. I wanna go to one of your games again." I was touched, I don't know why she thought of it, it's not basketball season, it's not on TV a bunch, I'm not crying tears of joy or sorrow over Cyclone bball. Okay then, gotta plant that WNBA seed for my sweetie-heart, get onto another team. Megan might be tall! She was the tallest kid on her tee-ball team, I know I've said that many times here. She's up to my belly-button now. Which is too tall for my baby girl! But I tower over her still, and really, really love it when, in an elevator for example, a stranger steps in, and Megan tenses and moves toward me, kind of leans on me, real close, at this point she can't get far enough from the stranger or close enough to me, even if the stranger is the nicest guy in the world and all genuine warmth and smiles, Megan is just not comfortable, maybe she even takes my hand or puts an arm around my waist. Safe. In that moment, her dependance or trust or whatever it is, it's very empowering, and I'm pretty sure I would take on a pack of wolves, or hockey goons, or crazy soccer moms, to protect her, even if I wouldn't last long. Hysterical soccer moms eat guys like me for breakfast. I would rather face rabid beasts, or toothless enforcers.
I want my kids to learn that repetition is the mother of learning. I don't expect them to pursue the Malcolm Gladwell '10,000 hour rule' for international stardom in something. I just want them to appreciate the benefits of practice. There is no substitute. Whether it's playing an instrument, swinging a bat or golf club, or writing (what I do here: practice writing), I want them to realize it takes hours and hours of practice for incremental, appreciable improvement. The best musicians and golfers do their thing for hours a day for thousands of days. That's what it takes. You need some ability to begin with, and being average - or even good - at many things, being well-rounded, is fine too, but if you wanna be head-and-shoulders above, if you wanna be 'great'... repetition and tons of it. Swing that racquet or club or bat every day, even if it's just in the yard, going over mechanics, without hitting any balls. Keep shooting, playing that song, painting, singing, swimming, skating, skiing, dancing, running, throwing, solving, speaking, presenting, coaching, leading, writing. Practice the skills. If you're not cool with average, or with performance plateaus, if you wanna get better at something, better than you were yesterday, last season, last year... hours of repetition is your answer. Your only answer. The price, however, is time. And that's a big price, involving decisions and motivation. But big rewards are possible, too. 'Less is more' for some things, like certain style concepts, good snappy writing, makeup, government. But not so with practice. That was preachy. But I'm leaving it :)
Michael's in Minnesota for the week. He called last night to say he won the homerun derby. Staged by Papa Mike, it was apparently a well organized event, with multiple rounds and competitor-specific distances (e.g. Michael had to hit it to the sidewalk, Ellie only past the tree). There was no Prince Fielder though, or even Daddy (I still got it, I sent one over the fence in my softball game last week, which is kinda hard to do in this thick, humid air). No prizes either, as the winner noted in my conversation with him, "I think I deserve a prize or something, don't I?" Michael hit 10. Grandma got second - she's pretty athletic, and a pretty athlete, my mom - followed by Alissa and Ellie. I'll have to watch the MLB Network for the official score and highlights.
Yesterday, out of nowhere Megan said, "Daddy, I miss watching you play basketball. I wanna go to one of your games again." I was touched, I don't know why she thought of it, it's not basketball season, it's not on TV a bunch, I'm not crying tears of joy or sorrow over Cyclone bball. Okay then, gotta plant that WNBA seed for my sweetie-heart, get onto another team. Megan might be tall! She was the tallest kid on her tee-ball team, I know I've said that many times here. She's up to my belly-button now. Which is too tall for my baby girl! But I tower over her still, and really, really love it when, in an elevator for example, a stranger steps in, and Megan tenses and moves toward me, kind of leans on me, real close, at this point she can't get far enough from the stranger or close enough to me, even if the stranger is the nicest guy in the world and all genuine warmth and smiles, Megan is just not comfortable, maybe she even takes my hand or puts an arm around my waist. Safe. In that moment, her dependance or trust or whatever it is, it's very empowering, and I'm pretty sure I would take on a pack of wolves, or hockey goons, or crazy soccer moms, to protect her, even if I wouldn't last long. Hysterical soccer moms eat guys like me for breakfast. I would rather face rabid beasts, or toothless enforcers.
I want my kids to learn that repetition is the mother of learning. I don't expect them to pursue the Malcolm Gladwell '10,000 hour rule' for international stardom in something. I just want them to appreciate the benefits of practice. There is no substitute. Whether it's playing an instrument, swinging a bat or golf club, or writing (what I do here: practice writing), I want them to realize it takes hours and hours of practice for incremental, appreciable improvement. The best musicians and golfers do their thing for hours a day for thousands of days. That's what it takes. You need some ability to begin with, and being average - or even good - at many things, being well-rounded, is fine too, but if you wanna be head-and-shoulders above, if you wanna be 'great'... repetition and tons of it. Swing that racquet or club or bat every day, even if it's just in the yard, going over mechanics, without hitting any balls. Keep shooting, playing that song, painting, singing, swimming, skating, skiing, dancing, running, throwing, solving, speaking, presenting, coaching, leading, writing. Practice the skills. If you're not cool with average, or with performance plateaus, if you wanna get better at something, better than you were yesterday, last season, last year... hours of repetition is your answer. Your only answer. The price, however, is time. And that's a big price, involving decisions and motivation. But big rewards are possible, too. 'Less is more' for some things, like certain style concepts, good snappy writing, makeup, government. But not so with practice. That was preachy. But I'm leaving it :)
Monday, July 18, 2011
Dad Entry #101
Megan's an ant-smasher. I'm not sure what it means. At least she's not repressing it. She usually stomps on 'em, but yesterday she used a rock and was a bit more surgical, hunched over, chasing and squashing as her prey skittered for the safety of sidewalk cracks or grass. Even Michael, alarmed by her blood thirst, said "Geez, Megan!" After that it got weird; before getting into the car, she handed me her weapon - the rock - and said, "Keep that, it's my 'Ant Smash Rock'. Can we write that on it, 'Ant Smash Rock', like with a pen or something?" I didn't answer; I was imagining Megan's run as 'Xena the Warrior Princess', filling the big shoes - literally I think - of Lucy Lawless in that terrible series that ended many years ago, thank God. Yeah, that won't do; they'd put her in a deerskin bikini and Uggs, something stupid like that. I'd prefer she was like Angelina Jolie's character in 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith' or 'Wanted' or 'Salt'. Actually, I remember those movies now, forget it, I hope she's an accountant.
Michael had his first zit. Pretty sure it was a pimple, a full blown whitehead, right between his eyes. He picked at it last night. And speaking of Lucy-Lawless-sized-feet, Michael's dogs are gettin' big in a hurry. It's all happening too fast!
Michael has a lot of baseball cards now. And he's been watching games on TV. He knows most of the good players. Gone are the days of:
Michael: "Dad, do you know who Albert 'Puh-jawles' is?"
Me: "I think you mean 'Poo-holes'."
Michael: "Oh, yeah, that could be. Is he any good?"
Me: "Albert Pujols? No, terrible, never heard of him. You can trade him to me though."
Is it just me or do individually packaged Velveeta slices last way too long? A million years from now, when the Earth is nothing but a barron wasteland of post-nuclear ash, they will find perfectly good cheese. If you can call it that.
Sitting to the left of Megan, hip-to-hip in the big chair, looking down at her long eyelashes and tan button nose, with my right arm around her, her head and sun-bleached hair in the crook of my elbow, watching her play the 'Hello Kitty' game on her Nintendo DS, listening to her narrate all the 'important' activities she's undertaking to get along in the game, while I take long deep breaths and sip green tea from my warm 'Master Kong Chef's Table' mug I have in my left hand... I think it was my perfect moment of happiness and health. I will try to recreate it again tomorrow.
Michael had his first zit. Pretty sure it was a pimple, a full blown whitehead, right between his eyes. He picked at it last night. And speaking of Lucy-Lawless-sized-feet, Michael's dogs are gettin' big in a hurry. It's all happening too fast!
Michael has a lot of baseball cards now. And he's been watching games on TV. He knows most of the good players. Gone are the days of:
Michael: "Dad, do you know who Albert 'Puh-jawles' is?"
Me: "I think you mean 'Poo-holes'."
Michael: "Oh, yeah, that could be. Is he any good?"
Me: "Albert Pujols? No, terrible, never heard of him. You can trade him to me though."
Is it just me or do individually packaged Velveeta slices last way too long? A million years from now, when the Earth is nothing but a barron wasteland of post-nuclear ash, they will find perfectly good cheese. If you can call it that.
Sitting to the left of Megan, hip-to-hip in the big chair, looking down at her long eyelashes and tan button nose, with my right arm around her, her head and sun-bleached hair in the crook of my elbow, watching her play the 'Hello Kitty' game on her Nintendo DS, listening to her narrate all the 'important' activities she's undertaking to get along in the game, while I take long deep breaths and sip green tea from my warm 'Master Kong Chef's Table' mug I have in my left hand... I think it was my perfect moment of happiness and health. I will try to recreate it again tomorrow.
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Dad Entry #100
Sometimes I think I write too much here, but then I realize 50% of my intended audience can't even read yet. Maybe they'll be interested in about 20 years. Until then, the jury's out.
At Starbucks this morning I saw a little girl with her shoes on the wrong feet. I miss Megan. She's in Kansas City for two weeks.
Megan rode on the scariest roller coaster at "Worlds of Fun" yesterday. She insisted on going. She's only 5; Sara said it was a real ride, like the kind people scream and puke on. She said Megan was terrified. And then exhilarated. And then proud. That is kind of a cool Pavlovian progression of emotions. Or a risk / reward lesson. A thrill, a rush. But do we want her conditioned this way, to 'be brave and try it', to think 'if I don't go, I'll never know'? Yes. Of course not. Maybe. Here we go again. I want her to be confident, adventurous (but cautious), I want her to think, "I can do this..." unless she should think, "This could be trouble..." Yeah, it's why I pray.
I want badly to pitch more BP to Michael. He's playing ball with Papa John in Kansas, and they went to a Royals game. Michael loved it. It's called indoctrination. Next up: watching the MLB Home Run Derby and All-Star Game, followed by a Twins game at Target Field with Papa Mike, followed by the Brewers game at Miller Park, then the White Sox at The Cell, punctuated with the best experience in baseball... watching the Cubs lose at Wrigley! This is an especially ugly year for the Northsiders, our lovable losers; only one other team - out of 30! - has lost more games at the break. Even the Royals have lost one fewer, and beat the Cubs head-to-head. The Twins are always better; they have a great organization up there. We don't care as much about the Brewers or Sox.
I had something special planned for entry #100, based on the "Family Project" survey I did last summer. But I can't do it until the kids return from KC. So maybe #101 will be 'special', or #102.
Megan's tee-ball and Michael's baseball seasons are over. Meg's was mostly a cute-fest. But Michael's got pretty serious during the playoffs. I wasn't ready for that. I haven't wanted a baseball team to win so badly since game 7 of the 2003 NLCS. Greg and I were at the game, ready to celebrate all night in Wrigleyville. Until the Cubs lost.
I played a little trick on Megan. She likes to unlock the condo door now, and she's good at it; her hands are strong and dextrous for as small as they are. But this time the door wasn't locked; I remembered I left it unlocked when I ran out to pick them up. Since I'm ornery, I told Megan as we approached the door, "Wait, I wanna try and unlock it with my mind." Megan stepped aside. I closed my eyes and wiggled my fingers over the lock. Then I turned the knob and it opened. My audience was impressed! (At least the 50% I referenced above.) Megan said, "How did you do that?!" Since a magician never tells, I looked at Michael who was already saying, "It wasn't locked, Megan."
Megan must've been thinking about the lock trick later when she blurted, "Yeah, no person on Earth is magic, right Dad, except for the Tooth Fairy?" Exactly right, Baby.
Is it just me, or do school gyms and cafeterias have the same bouquet of aromas they did when I was a kid? There's a mustiness to them, plus hints of disinfectant, sour milk, frozen pizza, sweaty mats, stinky socks... what else?
Megan is still pretty little. I was folding her laundry and smiling at her skinny jeans, and the fact her shorts are like smaller than an envelope. And then I snapped out of my reverie and thought, wait a minute, short shorts aren't allowed on my daughter. What the hell's goin' on around HERE?!?! Just kidding. Sort of.
At Starbucks this morning I saw a little girl with her shoes on the wrong feet. I miss Megan. She's in Kansas City for two weeks.
Megan rode on the scariest roller coaster at "Worlds of Fun" yesterday. She insisted on going. She's only 5; Sara said it was a real ride, like the kind people scream and puke on. She said Megan was terrified. And then exhilarated. And then proud. That is kind of a cool Pavlovian progression of emotions. Or a risk / reward lesson. A thrill, a rush. But do we want her conditioned this way, to 'be brave and try it', to think 'if I don't go, I'll never know'? Yes. Of course not. Maybe. Here we go again. I want her to be confident, adventurous (but cautious), I want her to think, "I can do this..." unless she should think, "This could be trouble..." Yeah, it's why I pray.
I want badly to pitch more BP to Michael. He's playing ball with Papa John in Kansas, and they went to a Royals game. Michael loved it. It's called indoctrination. Next up: watching the MLB Home Run Derby and All-Star Game, followed by a Twins game at Target Field with Papa Mike, followed by the Brewers game at Miller Park, then the White Sox at The Cell, punctuated with the best experience in baseball... watching the Cubs lose at Wrigley! This is an especially ugly year for the Northsiders, our lovable losers; only one other team - out of 30! - has lost more games at the break. Even the Royals have lost one fewer, and beat the Cubs head-to-head. The Twins are always better; they have a great organization up there. We don't care as much about the Brewers or Sox.
I had something special planned for entry #100, based on the "Family Project" survey I did last summer. But I can't do it until the kids return from KC. So maybe #101 will be 'special', or #102.
Megan's tee-ball and Michael's baseball seasons are over. Meg's was mostly a cute-fest. But Michael's got pretty serious during the playoffs. I wasn't ready for that. I haven't wanted a baseball team to win so badly since game 7 of the 2003 NLCS. Greg and I were at the game, ready to celebrate all night in Wrigleyville. Until the Cubs lost.
I played a little trick on Megan. She likes to unlock the condo door now, and she's good at it; her hands are strong and dextrous for as small as they are. But this time the door wasn't locked; I remembered I left it unlocked when I ran out to pick them up. Since I'm ornery, I told Megan as we approached the door, "Wait, I wanna try and unlock it with my mind." Megan stepped aside. I closed my eyes and wiggled my fingers over the lock. Then I turned the knob and it opened. My audience was impressed! (At least the 50% I referenced above.) Megan said, "How did you do that?!" Since a magician never tells, I looked at Michael who was already saying, "It wasn't locked, Megan."
Megan must've been thinking about the lock trick later when she blurted, "Yeah, no person on Earth is magic, right Dad, except for the Tooth Fairy?" Exactly right, Baby.
Is it just me, or do school gyms and cafeterias have the same bouquet of aromas they did when I was a kid? There's a mustiness to them, plus hints of disinfectant, sour milk, frozen pizza, sweaty mats, stinky socks... what else?
Megan is still pretty little. I was folding her laundry and smiling at her skinny jeans, and the fact her shorts are like smaller than an envelope. And then I snapped out of my reverie and thought, wait a minute, short shorts aren't allowed on my daughter. What the hell's goin' on around HERE?!?! Just kidding. Sort of.
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Dad Entry #99
Michael asked if he was Italian (more on that later) so we chatted about ancestry, what it is, what it means. I told him, "I am American, and grateful for it, and you are too, but the term 'American' doesn't really describe ancestry or lineage to me unless you're Native American." Then Michael remembered and said, "Alissa has a friend who is related to Sacajawea!" He was suddenly excited by the possibilities; he said, "Maybe we're related to Lebron James! Or Aramis Ramirez!" Hmmm, okay, so the concept is only loosely understood for now, or it's being loosely applied, the concept of ancestry, but it is exciting, Michael's got that right, and if you go back far enough, I believe, yes, the Cox's are indeed related to Lebron and Aramis.
Megan is on the Diamondbacks since every team is named after an MLB franchise. By coincidence, Michael is on the Diamondbacks in his league, too. We were watching the Cubs play the Rockies on TV. Megan recognized the jerseys and said, "Oh, the Rockies, I know those guys, we played them." I smiled. Did she think they were the same players she faced? (Tulo and CarGo are two of the best on the planet.) Or was she was just matching names? It sure sounded like the former...
Megan overheard some women speaking Spanish. She thought it was cool. I told her, "I can teach you Spanish." Michael told her, "No, me teach you Caveman. It fun. It easy. It annoy grown-ups." It sure does!
I bought a book called "The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman". Bash me for buying the book later. (It was a #1 New York Times Bestseller though.) Honestly, I was interested in the prescribed 'Slow Carb Diet', the benefits of insulin / blood sugar maintenance... the healthy eating part. Really. Now scientists say fat and salt aren't so bad, what's killing us are sugar, HFCS, and refined flour, blah, blah. Anyway, the funny moment: I left the book out and Michael started reading the title before I could whisk it away. So I decided not to bring more attention to it than deserved; I let him read the cover. I cringed and waited. Thankfully, he said, "Dad, what is rapid fat-loss?"
Megan is still a messy eater. I love it when I step in the kitchen and there's a crunch underfoot and it's a cheerio. Or what's left of one. I still try to pick up the particles, you know, get them in a single pinch between thumb and fore-, even though it's only flour now and impossible to clean without a vacuum. I don't like vacuums very much. I'm pretty sure Sara will corroborate. Side note: Aunt Jenny was more afraid of the 'Sweeper' - what we called the vacuum - when we were kids. Or, more precisely, Jenny called it the 'seeper'. (That does sound scary!) Cute-as-pie little Jenny was vigilant; whenever a vacuum came to life, she warned everyone, "Seeper get you!"
We saw a broken beer bottle on the sidewalk. Michael said, "Oh, Dad, in Indiana Jones I saw this, I could use that for a weapon!" Let's hope it never comes to that.
Megan is on the Diamondbacks since every team is named after an MLB franchise. By coincidence, Michael is on the Diamondbacks in his league, too. We were watching the Cubs play the Rockies on TV. Megan recognized the jerseys and said, "Oh, the Rockies, I know those guys, we played them." I smiled. Did she think they were the same players she faced? (Tulo and CarGo are two of the best on the planet.) Or was she was just matching names? It sure sounded like the former...
Megan overheard some women speaking Spanish. She thought it was cool. I told her, "I can teach you Spanish." Michael told her, "No, me teach you Caveman. It fun. It easy. It annoy grown-ups." It sure does!
I bought a book called "The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman". Bash me for buying the book later. (It was a #1 New York Times Bestseller though.) Honestly, I was interested in the prescribed 'Slow Carb Diet', the benefits of insulin / blood sugar maintenance... the healthy eating part. Really. Now scientists say fat and salt aren't so bad, what's killing us are sugar, HFCS, and refined flour, blah, blah. Anyway, the funny moment: I left the book out and Michael started reading the title before I could whisk it away. So I decided not to bring more attention to it than deserved; I let him read the cover. I cringed and waited. Thankfully, he said, "Dad, what is rapid fat-loss?"
Megan is still a messy eater. I love it when I step in the kitchen and there's a crunch underfoot and it's a cheerio. Or what's left of one. I still try to pick up the particles, you know, get them in a single pinch between thumb and fore-, even though it's only flour now and impossible to clean without a vacuum. I don't like vacuums very much. I'm pretty sure Sara will corroborate. Side note: Aunt Jenny was more afraid of the 'Sweeper' - what we called the vacuum - when we were kids. Or, more precisely, Jenny called it the 'seeper'. (That does sound scary!) Cute-as-pie little Jenny was vigilant; whenever a vacuum came to life, she warned everyone, "Seeper get you!"
We saw a broken beer bottle on the sidewalk. Michael said, "Oh, Dad, in Indiana Jones I saw this, I could use that for a weapon!" Let's hope it never comes to that.
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Dad Entry #98
Megan might become a lacto-ovo vegetarian. I bought some buffalo jerky at the farmers market and she said, "You eat part of a buffalo body? That's not nice."
Michael is currently fascinated with Braille. I don't blame him; I agree it's remarkable how blind people read. There are signs with Braille in the condo building, e.g. near stairwells and elevators. He has stopped multiple times now to feel and marvel at them.
Megan told me, "When I grow up, I'm gonna live in California." Ok, I guess I won't mind living there... :)
We stop and inspect the carcasses of dead insects a lot.
I wanna see "Kung Fu Panda 2" with the kids this weekend. "There is no charge for awesomeness!" - Po
"Kung Fu Panda" and "Megamind" are my favorites. Jack Black, Will Ferrell and Einstein. Yes, same boat. Humor: The highest form of intelligence. But doing Physics well ain't easy either; my lowest grades in college I think. I loved "How To Train Your Dragon" and "Despicable Me". And "Cars" and "Madagascar" are worth every penny. Owen Wilson and Ben Stiller. Is "Rio" any good? I haven't seen that one yet. Is it as good as "Nemo"?
Megan had her last tee-ball game today. She's a little tentative at the plate. She likes to roll it gently to the left side. I've given her a few tips, not least of all: "Swing harder Sweetheart, let 'er rip!" She's not open to suggestion from me though; she told me, "Daddy, you are not my tee-ball teacher. But maybe someday you can become a professional about hitting." Huh? A pro hitter or pro coach? Professionals? Who's already telling you about the pros? Your brother? (If so, that's awesome, I'm happy he's excited about baseball!) And why don't I possess the unquestioned authority you observe in your tee-ball coaches?! Your old man is the guy you wanna talk to about hitting, Honey-Bunny. And it's 'coach', in sports we call 'em coaches, Coach Walt and Coach Mike, not so much 'teachers'. I should note here that Walt and Mike are terrific coaches, awesome guys, great with the kids. I'm grateful for that. The kids have had wonderful coaches for all their teams so far. I suspect that won't be the case every time, but we'll see. So far so good.
Megan is such a perfect little creature, I ache a bit when I miss her, when traveling for work, even traveling for fun, hunting, whatever. She can be naughty, but she is without a doubt the cutest thing that ever lived.
Michael is currently fascinated with Braille. I don't blame him; I agree it's remarkable how blind people read. There are signs with Braille in the condo building, e.g. near stairwells and elevators. He has stopped multiple times now to feel and marvel at them.
Megan told me, "When I grow up, I'm gonna live in California." Ok, I guess I won't mind living there... :)
We stop and inspect the carcasses of dead insects a lot.
I wanna see "Kung Fu Panda 2" with the kids this weekend. "There is no charge for awesomeness!" - Po
"Kung Fu Panda" and "Megamind" are my favorites. Jack Black, Will Ferrell and Einstein. Yes, same boat. Humor: The highest form of intelligence. But doing Physics well ain't easy either; my lowest grades in college I think. I loved "How To Train Your Dragon" and "Despicable Me". And "Cars" and "Madagascar" are worth every penny. Owen Wilson and Ben Stiller. Is "Rio" any good? I haven't seen that one yet. Is it as good as "Nemo"?
Megan had her last tee-ball game today. She's a little tentative at the plate. She likes to roll it gently to the left side. I've given her a few tips, not least of all: "Swing harder Sweetheart, let 'er rip!" She's not open to suggestion from me though; she told me, "Daddy, you are not my tee-ball teacher. But maybe someday you can become a professional about hitting." Huh? A pro hitter or pro coach? Professionals? Who's already telling you about the pros? Your brother? (If so, that's awesome, I'm happy he's excited about baseball!) And why don't I possess the unquestioned authority you observe in your tee-ball coaches?! Your old man is the guy you wanna talk to about hitting, Honey-Bunny. And it's 'coach', in sports we call 'em coaches, Coach Walt and Coach Mike, not so much 'teachers'. I should note here that Walt and Mike are terrific coaches, awesome guys, great with the kids. I'm grateful for that. The kids have had wonderful coaches for all their teams so far. I suspect that won't be the case every time, but we'll see. So far so good.
Megan is such a perfect little creature, I ache a bit when I miss her, when traveling for work, even traveling for fun, hunting, whatever. She can be naughty, but she is without a doubt the cutest thing that ever lived.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Dad Entry #97
I went through Megan's purse. Was I practicing? For her teenager years? The sneaky rituals and parenting tricks I'll employ. No. Maybe. It depends. No. Whatever, I have ten years before that stage. Or nine. Eight. Six? Actually, I'm more fearful I'll be too passive; I'll trust Megan's moral compass when I should punch her boyfriend instead. I followed the rules when I was a teenager. I said goodnight to my mom every night when I was in high school. I mean when I went out and came home late; I had to walk up to the edge of her bed and tell her I was home (safely). Some nights I tried to keep my distance, and kind of whisper-yell from her bedroom doorway (because I smelled like cheap, skunky beer). My mom would groggily respond, "Ok, goodnight," to my, "I'm home," like she was still halfway under, and I would relax, relieved, and then the next morning she'd ask with a piercing, direct certainty, "So how come you barely stepped into the bedroom last night to say goodnight?" That magical mother sense. But Megan will be fine; I can trust her inner strength. She'll make her own decisions. Put another way: she's stubborn, not easily coerced or convinced to do something like be nice when she's crabby. Does this 'strength' as I've called it - because I'm too nice, naive, or dumb - anyway, does this mean she'll ignore peer pressure? Who knows. Okay, back to Megan's purse. Contents: a notebook, glitter pen, water bottle and rubber band. Pretty benign. Does anyone else remember Geraldo opening Al Capone's secret vault in Chicago during a live, heavily-hyped, special broadcast? Megan's notebook was small; it had stickers in it, mostly hearts and snowflakes. Nothing to worry about. No "I love Justin Beiber" scribbles, over and over, page after page. In Megan's handwriting!! She could easily manage that now if someone helped her spell. Who was her accomplice?!?! Seriously, I just thought it was cute she had a real purse - like a hand-me-down from Mommy custom made at 1154 Lill - and when I moved it from the middle of the hallway (?) I noticed it was very light. Gosh, I hate to say it, but when I think of purses I think of oversized, bulging bags, with straps awkwardly looped over arms, as sunglasses, checkbooks, make-up, and keys spill out, with photo buttons pinned on (of the kids in sports), all attached to a harried woman on some mission like shopping during a big sale or corraling misbehaving kids. I know that's distorted and wrong. But I'm being honest; I'd prefer I thought instantly of a 'red carpet handbag' instead, a designer dress accessory, which is more like a wallet, or a snack-sized-ziploc (one that's a bit more sturdy, pimped-out and colorful, and likely has diet pills or other drugs in it - stimulants, muscle relaxers, hunger cessation supplements, typical hollywood stuff, probably not apple slices or baby carrot sticks like I put in the snack-sized-ziplocs in Michael's school lunches).
Michael's first baseball season is winding down. He's improved; he has a nice swing. He does, however, like almost every second-grader, strike out a lot. It's his first year of 'kid-pitch'. Seven-year-old pitchers are erratic. That's an understatement. After four balls from a player, a coach takes over. But even that makes for a difficult, mid-AB change. A few of the kids cry when they K. Michael's not about to cry, but I can tell it grates on him. So I said, "Name a good player." He said, "Aramis Ramirez." I agreed with him when he said, "It's almost like for some guys I can tell they're good by the sound of their names." I responded with a bad Tim McCarver impression, enunciating "Michael Cox" in a very baseball-friendly, announcer-kinda way. He wasn't convinced. Anyway, Aramiz Ramirez does have a nice ring to it, and yes, he's a good hitter. So I told Michael, "Pay attention, we're gonna google his career stats." In 14 seasons, Ramirez has hit 294 homers. Not too shabby. And he's struck out 922 times, and that's not bad either; it's less often than many - Soriano! - who swing for the fences. Michael was quiet; that means it sunk in. But he still asked me the next day, "Did you strike out when you played baseball?" I said, "Sure, I played a lot of baseball and struck out plenty of times, but I don't think about that, I think about the times I hit homeruns, launched it over the fence, outta the park, and then I got to trot around the bases, now that's a good feeling, and one you'll love too, you can crush it, I've seen you, and that's what we, as hitters, remember. Just go up there and get your hacks. Got it?" He nodded at least. (For the record, what grated on me was if I booted one at shortstop. I hope Michael's just a monster first baseman. That's easier duty over there. You just gotta rake at the plate.)
Michael's first baseball season is winding down. He's improved; he has a nice swing. He does, however, like almost every second-grader, strike out a lot. It's his first year of 'kid-pitch'. Seven-year-old pitchers are erratic. That's an understatement. After four balls from a player, a coach takes over. But even that makes for a difficult, mid-AB change. A few of the kids cry when they K. Michael's not about to cry, but I can tell it grates on him. So I said, "Name a good player." He said, "Aramis Ramirez." I agreed with him when he said, "It's almost like for some guys I can tell they're good by the sound of their names." I responded with a bad Tim McCarver impression, enunciating "Michael Cox" in a very baseball-friendly, announcer-kinda way. He wasn't convinced. Anyway, Aramiz Ramirez does have a nice ring to it, and yes, he's a good hitter. So I told Michael, "Pay attention, we're gonna google his career stats." In 14 seasons, Ramirez has hit 294 homers. Not too shabby. And he's struck out 922 times, and that's not bad either; it's less often than many - Soriano! - who swing for the fences. Michael was quiet; that means it sunk in. But he still asked me the next day, "Did you strike out when you played baseball?" I said, "Sure, I played a lot of baseball and struck out plenty of times, but I don't think about that, I think about the times I hit homeruns, launched it over the fence, outta the park, and then I got to trot around the bases, now that's a good feeling, and one you'll love too, you can crush it, I've seen you, and that's what we, as hitters, remember. Just go up there and get your hacks. Got it?" He nodded at least. (For the record, what grated on me was if I booted one at shortstop. I hope Michael's just a monster first baseman. That's easier duty over there. You just gotta rake at the plate.)
Friday, June 03, 2011
Thursday, June 02, 2011
Dad Entry #96
Megan snores. Sometimes she ends up in a contorted position with her head tilted back and mouth gaped open. Then I can hear it, a little rattle in her throat. Sleep apnea? A life of fatigue and crabbiness and unrealized potential?! No, the snoring is rare; she’s usually silent as a mouse. A perfect angel. Until she gets crabby.
Michael’s bad sleeping habit – sweating – seems more frequent, and disruptive. He bundles up like an Eskimo, or a Bears fan at Soldier Field, many-layered, wrapped tight and surrounded by his comforter, blanket, sheets, another blanket, crayon pillow, and a jumble of stuffed animals. When I pull the covers back from his chin, a heat wave wafts upward, like I’ve lifted the lid from a pot of boiling water. No kidding. Steam. Then I touch his brow and it’s soaked. So is the hair on his temples. It’s like someone threw water in his face.
We were at a restaurant and a group of young women walked by. I’d say they were late teens or early twenties. Megan said, “I wonder if those girls are in Girl Scouts, Dad!” Like everything Megan says - except for, “I hate (fill in the blank)!” and, well, several other things - it was super cute. The comment warmed my heart. Was it the innocence of it? The inaccuracy? The appeal, to a little girl like Megan, of such an esteemed and illustrious group as the Girl Scouts?! The cookies? I’m not sure. I know young men can do Eagle Scouts, but I’m not aware of an equivalent for young women. The comment just sort of pointed to Megan’s ‘understanding horizon’ I guess I’ll call it. Limited by age, of course. It’ll be a decade or so before she understands teenager-hood, and after that, what it’s like to be a woman, to really know what women look and feel like, what scares, inspires, and delights them. It’s a complex subject, and diverse, but there’s a book about it, a manual; it’s a billion pages long and incomplete and never been written and incomprehensible anyway.
Megan likes minty gum. She calls it ‘spicy’ gum, which is one of the fifty million things I love about her.
I already mentioned this when he tried it on, but Michael looked super-GQ in his First Communion suit. With clip-on tie, shiny black shoes, and new haircut. Stud.
Michael and Megan bicker. They joust a lot now; it brings back memories! Jen? Regardless, the other day Megan said, “I wanna marry you, Michael.” Michael responded – and I don’t know where he heard this – “Umm, I’m pretty sure that’s illegal.”
The kids like to tell on each other, too. “Dad, Megan tried to kick me” and “Dad, Michael won’t let me play.” Cries of “It’s not fair” are common. And they threaten each other. Michael says, “Okay, you did it again so I guess I have to expel you from school.” This upsets Megan, as she enjoys playing school. She likes the fake assignments and ‘notes sent home to parents’ and field trip announcements that Michael creates and hands out to her. So Megan acquiesces – or is a tiny bit nicer – unless Michael goes too far. Then, like the other day, she’ll say, “I’m telling Mommy, and I’m gonna tell her to punish you real good!” The ‘real good’ ending made it sound less painful or punitive or something. But it gives Michael pause. The other day Megan insisted on passing Michael on the stairs. We weren’t in a hurry; it was just one of those mornings full of competition, irritation, and sniping between them. When Megan pushed past Michael on the stairs he said, “How come Megan always has to be first, even at someone else's birthday party!” Ooh, I knew immediately this was a severe charge, maybe the supreme accusation of selfishness for persons of single digit age. The Everest of indictments for self-centeredness! Birthdays are sacred. Christmas is the only exception, the only day it’s okay to have more fun and more presents than the birthday boy. Although, hopefully he gets a lot of attention too. He does at our house. Did I mention Megan’s comments about the “Jesus world?” Yeah, pretty cool, fifty million and one.
Michael’s bad sleeping habit – sweating – seems more frequent, and disruptive. He bundles up like an Eskimo, or a Bears fan at Soldier Field, many-layered, wrapped tight and surrounded by his comforter, blanket, sheets, another blanket, crayon pillow, and a jumble of stuffed animals. When I pull the covers back from his chin, a heat wave wafts upward, like I’ve lifted the lid from a pot of boiling water. No kidding. Steam. Then I touch his brow and it’s soaked. So is the hair on his temples. It’s like someone threw water in his face.
We were at a restaurant and a group of young women walked by. I’d say they were late teens or early twenties. Megan said, “I wonder if those girls are in Girl Scouts, Dad!” Like everything Megan says - except for, “I hate (fill in the blank)!” and, well, several other things - it was super cute. The comment warmed my heart. Was it the innocence of it? The inaccuracy? The appeal, to a little girl like Megan, of such an esteemed and illustrious group as the Girl Scouts?! The cookies? I’m not sure. I know young men can do Eagle Scouts, but I’m not aware of an equivalent for young women. The comment just sort of pointed to Megan’s ‘understanding horizon’ I guess I’ll call it. Limited by age, of course. It’ll be a decade or so before she understands teenager-hood, and after that, what it’s like to be a woman, to really know what women look and feel like, what scares, inspires, and delights them. It’s a complex subject, and diverse, but there’s a book about it, a manual; it’s a billion pages long and incomplete and never been written and incomprehensible anyway.
Megan likes minty gum. She calls it ‘spicy’ gum, which is one of the fifty million things I love about her.
I already mentioned this when he tried it on, but Michael looked super-GQ in his First Communion suit. With clip-on tie, shiny black shoes, and new haircut. Stud.
Michael and Megan bicker. They joust a lot now; it brings back memories! Jen? Regardless, the other day Megan said, “I wanna marry you, Michael.” Michael responded – and I don’t know where he heard this – “Umm, I’m pretty sure that’s illegal.”
The kids like to tell on each other, too. “Dad, Megan tried to kick me” and “Dad, Michael won’t let me play.” Cries of “It’s not fair” are common. And they threaten each other. Michael says, “Okay, you did it again so I guess I have to expel you from school.” This upsets Megan, as she enjoys playing school. She likes the fake assignments and ‘notes sent home to parents’ and field trip announcements that Michael creates and hands out to her. So Megan acquiesces – or is a tiny bit nicer – unless Michael goes too far. Then, like the other day, she’ll say, “I’m telling Mommy, and I’m gonna tell her to punish you real good!” The ‘real good’ ending made it sound less painful or punitive or something. But it gives Michael pause. The other day Megan insisted on passing Michael on the stairs. We weren’t in a hurry; it was just one of those mornings full of competition, irritation, and sniping between them. When Megan pushed past Michael on the stairs he said, “How come Megan always has to be first, even at someone else's birthday party!” Ooh, I knew immediately this was a severe charge, maybe the supreme accusation of selfishness for persons of single digit age. The Everest of indictments for self-centeredness! Birthdays are sacred. Christmas is the only exception, the only day it’s okay to have more fun and more presents than the birthday boy. Although, hopefully he gets a lot of attention too. He does at our house. Did I mention Megan’s comments about the “Jesus world?” Yeah, pretty cool, fifty million and one.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Dad Entry #95
Michael and I love a show called "River Monsters" on Animal Planet. An 'angling adventurer' named Jeremy travels the world catching giant freshwater fish. They're often billed as 'man-eaters' by the show's commercials and our sensationalizing media, even when they have no teeth. But Jeremy did catch an enormous, 9-foot-long white sturgeon Jeremy on yesterday's episode. The fish are always huge. And ugly. And therefore kinda creepy. So despite any irritating trumped-up, over-produced drama, Michael and I are addicted to the show. We watch it in HD on the big flatscreen; the scenery is amazing. In Alaska - where we were yesterday :) - grizzlies nearly attacked us while we fished for sockeye salmon that turn a brilliant red when spawning. One even took a fish right off our line which prompted our guide to fire a warning shot from his 50 caliber handgun which, by the way, is like a canon. And the 9-foot white sturgeon Jeremy landed... now that is a massive freshwater fish, and only half as big as their max size. This left Michael and I wide-eyed and breathless. I wanna take Michael carp fishing in Clear Lake, where I can promise him at least a 2-3 foot fish, and one nearly as unattractive as the stuff Jeremy catches. The show's a little scary for Meg - for example when Jeremy dives in a murky river in India and literally collides with a gigantic catfish - so we watch it when she's not around. During an episode on the Nile in Africa, Michael said, "Africa is an interesting place." I asked him, "You wanna go there with me sometime?" He said, "No, I don't want to get malaria," and then added, "I don't want to go through that process." I don't know if he meant the 'being infected by blood-sucking insects' process, or the fever, chills, sweating, pain and gasto-intestinal issues that are symptoms of the disease. I was mostly impressed with his use of the word 'process'. He's seven years old.
For the record, Michael's right to be worried about malaria in Africa. According to the WHO, every 30 seconds a child dies there from its effects. Of course, I told Michael he'd be fine if he visited Africa, since vaccines are being developed, and we'd treat him immediately if he showed any symptoms. I think this confounded him further... so why are so many kids dying? Why do 1 million people die annually from malaria when we have treatment? I decided not to launch into a discussion about poverty, disparity, and so on. I think Michael reads about things like malaria in his National Geographic Kids magazine. Maybe I should take it away from him!
Continuing on a serious note, I wonder if Michael will catch wind of the trendy wave of apocalyptic predictions, the Mayan calendar, End of Days, Doomsday, whatever. Didn't someone say the world would end a few days ago? Seriously, I mean someone who actually got widespread press and recognition for their prediction? It appears they were wrong. The question my dad - Papa Mike - and I like to kick around is if global threats and uncertainty are in decline now, or on the rise. Sure, there are many threats and issues now, but will any amount to the death and destruction of the World Wars, or the genocides orchestrated by Hitler and Stalin? Does the average person feel more secure now, or were they better off 50 years ago? It's difficult to consider an average, but it's really a simple question. We don't have to overcomplicate every idea, every answer. What is the direction of the world? Up or down? It seems silly to include these comments here, but hopefully the kids will read this blog someday, when they're older, and the world's a little older too. I hope any new developments between now and then are positive. But today you can scare yourself reading about terrorism and tsunamis, about Middle East dictatorships and government corruption. Entire countries are over-leveraged; the whole western world's in debt! What about global warming, and 'peak oil' with no real alternative fuels yet (at least for global transportation). Nuclear power is good for electricity, but look what happened in Japan recently? And what about 65 years ago?! Nuclear power as a weapon is terrifying, in the hands of a dictator, or a suitcase nuke or dirty bomb? What about chemical and biological weapons? Pollution and toxins? Corporate profit over people and Wall Street's insatiable gluttony? Zombies and vampires?!?! Ha, you might think they're real based on the deluge of recent movies and shows about them. One thing we can't deny: the world is faster and more developed, more technological now. And the 24-hour news cycle - and it's the 24-hour bad news cycle for sure - doesn't help raise our collective level of optimism and security. But Voltaire - that's a cheesy name for an Enlightenment era philosopher, isn't it? - said, "Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is absurd." I tend to agree. But the media spreads too much fear, as a strategy to increase reader- and viewership. It capitalizes on this notion that tragedy sells, always bias the story toward shocking, "If it bleeds, it leads." That's no good. Especially if, as a society, we want to promote a higher sense of optimism and security. Is it naive to want that? Or even worse, dangerous? Or is it healthy, and a little self-fulfilling even? I'm not sure, Michael and Megan can decide for themselves. Is the world good or bad? Even Einstein said, "The most important question any human being can ask is, 'Is this a friendly universe?'" Of course, I think the world is good; I think most people are good. But bad things still happen, and there are rotten apples that can do serious damage. Regardless of it all, most countries on the globe have cities and places that are safe. And worth visiting. I hope Michael and Megan agree; I hope they see the world. And meet many people. I hope they take a trip - safely! - to Africa someday.
For the record, Michael's right to be worried about malaria in Africa. According to the WHO, every 30 seconds a child dies there from its effects. Of course, I told Michael he'd be fine if he visited Africa, since vaccines are being developed, and we'd treat him immediately if he showed any symptoms. I think this confounded him further... so why are so many kids dying? Why do 1 million people die annually from malaria when we have treatment? I decided not to launch into a discussion about poverty, disparity, and so on. I think Michael reads about things like malaria in his National Geographic Kids magazine. Maybe I should take it away from him!
Continuing on a serious note, I wonder if Michael will catch wind of the trendy wave of apocalyptic predictions, the Mayan calendar, End of Days, Doomsday, whatever. Didn't someone say the world would end a few days ago? Seriously, I mean someone who actually got widespread press and recognition for their prediction? It appears they were wrong. The question my dad - Papa Mike - and I like to kick around is if global threats and uncertainty are in decline now, or on the rise. Sure, there are many threats and issues now, but will any amount to the death and destruction of the World Wars, or the genocides orchestrated by Hitler and Stalin? Does the average person feel more secure now, or were they better off 50 years ago? It's difficult to consider an average, but it's really a simple question. We don't have to overcomplicate every idea, every answer. What is the direction of the world? Up or down? It seems silly to include these comments here, but hopefully the kids will read this blog someday, when they're older, and the world's a little older too. I hope any new developments between now and then are positive. But today you can scare yourself reading about terrorism and tsunamis, about Middle East dictatorships and government corruption. Entire countries are over-leveraged; the whole western world's in debt! What about global warming, and 'peak oil' with no real alternative fuels yet (at least for global transportation). Nuclear power is good for electricity, but look what happened in Japan recently? And what about 65 years ago?! Nuclear power as a weapon is terrifying, in the hands of a dictator, or a suitcase nuke or dirty bomb? What about chemical and biological weapons? Pollution and toxins? Corporate profit over people and Wall Street's insatiable gluttony? Zombies and vampires?!?! Ha, you might think they're real based on the deluge of recent movies and shows about them. One thing we can't deny: the world is faster and more developed, more technological now. And the 24-hour news cycle - and it's the 24-hour bad news cycle for sure - doesn't help raise our collective level of optimism and security. But Voltaire - that's a cheesy name for an Enlightenment era philosopher, isn't it? - said, "Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is absurd." I tend to agree. But the media spreads too much fear, as a strategy to increase reader- and viewership. It capitalizes on this notion that tragedy sells, always bias the story toward shocking, "If it bleeds, it leads." That's no good. Especially if, as a society, we want to promote a higher sense of optimism and security. Is it naive to want that? Or even worse, dangerous? Or is it healthy, and a little self-fulfilling even? I'm not sure, Michael and Megan can decide for themselves. Is the world good or bad? Even Einstein said, "The most important question any human being can ask is, 'Is this a friendly universe?'" Of course, I think the world is good; I think most people are good. But bad things still happen, and there are rotten apples that can do serious damage. Regardless of it all, most countries on the globe have cities and places that are safe. And worth visiting. I hope Michael and Megan agree; I hope they see the world. And meet many people. I hope they take a trip - safely! - to Africa someday.
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Dad Entry #94
The kids love school supplies. They'd rather shop in the school supplies aisle at Target than the toy department. It’s a new obsession with playing school, I guess. Sara and I are cool with it; we figure there are worse things to be obsessed about than school. So I bought piles of pens and pencils in China and brought them home as gifts. It’s what they asked for, and they’re less expensive over there, mechanical pencils, glitter markers, highlighters, Post-it notes, and so on. Again, better it be school and art supplies than other things they could ask for like candy or cheap plastic toys or weapons. Michael hasn't asked for Chinese throwing stars yet. Or nunchucks. But it won't be long; I gave him a deck of cards with 54 different images of Shaolin Monks doing Kung Fu. HI-YA! I will introduce him to Bruce Lee soon. And Donnie Yen.
Michael and his 2nd grade class - and Megan too, since Mommy was a chaperone - went on a field trip to the Chicago Field Museum of Natural History. So last night Megan said, "Dad, did you know a long, long time ago in Egypt, they didn’t wear underpants?" I said, “Really, that's interesting, how do you know?” Megan said, “I saw it at the museum on Michael’s field trip, there was a picture of an Egypt man, and he was naked.” Megan must've really studied the hieroglyphic symbols and drawings at the Egyptian tomb exhibit. But then I thought, Were the man's private parts depicted somehow, in that weird Picasso-esque 2-dimensional drawing style, commonly used by Egyptian artists? And then I thought, Why couldn't the Pharaoh find someone who could draw with more of a 3-D rendering effect? And then I thought, Megan gets her ADHD from me, obviously. Whatever, at least the stick figure drawing with male private parts was not anatomically confusing for Megan, like, say, the drawings of Egyptian men with dog heads. Uh-oh, I just teed that up for the ladies, didn't I? A man with a dog head isn't confusing at all... yeah, yeah.
Michael knows how to use Microsoft PowerPoint. No kidding. He said he knew how and when I was incredulous, he said, "I'll show you." So I opened PowerPoint on my PC and handed it to him and he proceeded to create a slide about Megan. He selected a layout and design, then he entered some text about her favorite things and added a clip art image. Wow. He's going to sit me down soon and project a few slides on the wall, or maybe route it via HDMI to our flatscreen, where he'll use a laser pointer to walk me through a presentation in PowerPoint complete with a spreadsheet and graph of the payment schedule he's proposing for the big allowance he deserves, with competitive bids and valuations and accounting for the chores he'll perform, followed by a pareto of how he'll spend the money. My son. He's very cerebral. I was giving him some reminders about baseball at his game on Saturday, in between innings. Michael played 3rd base and afterwards I pointed out to him, "Hey man, when the ball is hit to someone else, remember to cover your base. Especially if there's a runner on 2nd, he might advance to 3rd and someone might try to throw him out there." Michael's eyes were glazed over halfway through my comments. He wasn't interested. But... I bet if I gave him a baseball rulebook, he'd devour it and before long spout things like, "Dad, did you know there's something called the Infield Fly Rule, to prevent infielders from dropping pop-ups on purpose so they can turn double plays. Without this rule, a defense could drop a pop-up with runners on first and second, and turn it into a double play because the runners have to stay close to their bases so they won't get doubled-off, but then they can be easily forced-out at 3rd and 2nd base if the ball is dropped." Yes, Michael, I know, I played in the infield in something like 500 baseball games.
Michael and his 2nd grade class - and Megan too, since Mommy was a chaperone - went on a field trip to the Chicago Field Museum of Natural History. So last night Megan said, "Dad, did you know a long, long time ago in Egypt, they didn’t wear underpants?" I said, “Really, that's interesting, how do you know?” Megan said, “I saw it at the museum on Michael’s field trip, there was a picture of an Egypt man, and he was naked.” Megan must've really studied the hieroglyphic symbols and drawings at the Egyptian tomb exhibit. But then I thought, Were the man's private parts depicted somehow, in that weird Picasso-esque 2-dimensional drawing style, commonly used by Egyptian artists? And then I thought, Why couldn't the Pharaoh find someone who could draw with more of a 3-D rendering effect? And then I thought, Megan gets her ADHD from me, obviously. Whatever, at least the stick figure drawing with male private parts was not anatomically confusing for Megan, like, say, the drawings of Egyptian men with dog heads. Uh-oh, I just teed that up for the ladies, didn't I? A man with a dog head isn't confusing at all... yeah, yeah.
Michael knows how to use Microsoft PowerPoint. No kidding. He said he knew how and when I was incredulous, he said, "I'll show you." So I opened PowerPoint on my PC and handed it to him and he proceeded to create a slide about Megan. He selected a layout and design, then he entered some text about her favorite things and added a clip art image. Wow. He's going to sit me down soon and project a few slides on the wall, or maybe route it via HDMI to our flatscreen, where he'll use a laser pointer to walk me through a presentation in PowerPoint complete with a spreadsheet and graph of the payment schedule he's proposing for the big allowance he deserves, with competitive bids and valuations and accounting for the chores he'll perform, followed by a pareto of how he'll spend the money. My son. He's very cerebral. I was giving him some reminders about baseball at his game on Saturday, in between innings. Michael played 3rd base and afterwards I pointed out to him, "Hey man, when the ball is hit to someone else, remember to cover your base. Especially if there's a runner on 2nd, he might advance to 3rd and someone might try to throw him out there." Michael's eyes were glazed over halfway through my comments. He wasn't interested. But... I bet if I gave him a baseball rulebook, he'd devour it and before long spout things like, "Dad, did you know there's something called the Infield Fly Rule, to prevent infielders from dropping pop-ups on purpose so they can turn double plays. Without this rule, a defense could drop a pop-up with runners on first and second, and turn it into a double play because the runners have to stay close to their bases so they won't get doubled-off, but then they can be easily forced-out at 3rd and 2nd base if the ball is dropped." Yes, Michael, I know, I played in the infield in something like 500 baseball games.
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